Meet Latosha Allen, "Been there, done that & will do it again!"

I want to introduce you to LaTosha Allen, she is a great friend of mine. We first met when we were 17 years old at Alabama State University in the financial aid line! Since then we have become the best of friends. She has been there at every major point of my life and knows more secrets about me than she needs too! LOL! She is a super friend, a great supporter, and a great mom. I invited LaTosha to sit down to an interview with WIFE, and even though LaTosha is divorced, she hasn't given up on the possibility of getting married again. She welcomes it. Meet LaTosha Allen.

Hi! How are you doing?
Great...I can't complain because no one listens anymore...LOL

Where do you live? Oxford, Alabama
What do you do?
Social Worker for the Department of Public Health
How long were you married? for almost 5 years.
What happened? We pretty much grew apart.
Do you want to get married again? Yes. Why?  I don't think God put me on this earth to be lonely.
Has dating changed since you were on the scene?
Yes and No...it's hard to start the process over again and getting yourself out there.
What did you like/dislike about marriage? I liked the idea of FAMILY...it was very important to me to have my daughter grow up with her father. I didn't like feeling like I was the only adult with sense at times.


Do you have children? How does she handle the divorce? Yes I have an eleven year old daughter. She took it really hard, but now she's coming around to the realization that it's life and sometimes life sucks.

How has your life changed as a parent since the divorce?         
I am responsible for doing everything for Taylin. Practices, games, school activities...it's all on me.
Is there anything you would have did differently? I don't think I would have gotten married. We married because it was the right thing to do. We loved each other, but obviously not enough to make it work.
If you could go back in time, what would you have told your self 1 day before the wedding? Nothing could have fixed our problem in one day...maybe 1 year before I would've just said this isn't gonna work.
Do you feel your soul mate is out there? Do you believe in soul mates? Yes I believe he's out there, prolly wondering where I am...LOL

I see you are a natualista!! How long have you been natural? Ummm I think almost 4/5 years now. I have my I love my hair and I hate my hair moments though.
What do you like about it?
The versatility. I can do a lot with my hair...curly, straight, wavy...I love the versatility.
Have you seen a different in the quality of your hair?
Yes it's much thicker and stronger than it's been in a LONG TIME.
I hear you are doing a hair challenge? What are your hair goals? Basically to prove that as long as you take CARE of your hair you can apply heat to it and it will not break OFF. I remember getting my hair pressed Weekly as a child and it didn't go anywhere. Because my Granny took care of it. My hair problems started after I thought a RELAXER could cure my problems...but it made the problem worse.
Do you have plans to get a relaxer anytime soon? Nope, not at this time...I'm going to admit, that I won't say never...a relaxer didn't break my hair off...My not taking care of my relaxed hair broke my hair off.

What are your 2012 goals? How do you plan to reach them? To pay off a ton of bills that I accrued over the years. I'm gonna tackle them one at a time.
What are you looking forward too the most this year?
Being CELIBATE...LOL...I'm going to get to know me!!!!! (you asked)

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Do you have any HAIR GOALS for 2012? I do.

Do you have 2012 hair goals? I do. My hair goal is to have APL (arm pit length) by June. I am going to a friends wedding and my bi-annual Girls Weekend and I want my hair long and flowey! Last time we went to Miami! This time we are going to where the Bride is! I can't wait either. I am natural (have not put a chemical relaxer in my hair since Feb 2007). And since becoming natural I have learned so much about hair. Things I wish I would have known in high school, college and even after college because now I have the hair that I always wanted. I have thick, healthy, versatile hair! It's not because I do not have a relaxer either, it's because I know how to take care of my hair now. You can still have thick, healthy and versatile hair with a relaxer if you take care of your hair. But for me, not having a relaxer has just taken my hair and my education for hair to a whole other level.

I have applied things I have learned to even caring for my daughters hair. That is actually when I started researching hair. When my baby was one, her hair was short. And she had the littlest ponytails. I knew I wanted my baby's hair long and started researching hair growth. I learned that it's less about growing your hair because your hair is going to grow anyway (if you eat good, exercise, have less stress, etc.). It's actually more about retaining the hair is on your head! Protecting those ends (the most fragile part of the hair). It's a about a good regimen. I started washing her hair once a week and braiding her hair every week. She gets to wear pony tails on the weekend. I use good products on her hair, whatever I use on mine- I use on hers. And I keep her hair moisturized during braid out by misting with water and sealing with oils (Shea butter, coconut oil or others). My daugther just turned 4 and her hair is reaches down to the middle of her back! I saw what I was doing was working for her, so I started do it for myself. I don't wear braids through out the week, but I do try to wear protective styles to protect my ends. I wear twist sets, or roll my hair with flexi rods, or just buns. I too, get creative on the weekends and let it hang out. Also, I do not straighten my hair often. I usually do it for special occasions which averages to once every 3 to 4 months! I probably won't straighten it again until Mothers Day, then for the wedding in June.

Well, I follow SimpYouniqe on YouTube and she just got these BIOTIN vitamins and wanted to give them a try. They are for hair, nails & skin. It's funny because I have been thinking about getting the vitamins before I even saw her post. When I saw her post, I just took the plunge and bought them. They are pricey ($10.69 but I had a coupon for $2 off and they were 50% off! So I paid $3.) Love a deal. Right now my hair is past my shoulders but not the length I want yet, so for the next 5 months I really need to stick to my regimen and protective styles. This picture was taken in November. I had just gotten my hair straightened at a Dominican shop. I know it's not the greatest picture, sorry. I will do better next time. I pray these vitamins do something! I will let you all know.

Do you have any hair goals?