A Males GREAT Perspective: For Colored Girls Movie Review

The following REVIEW is written by a faithful male follower of this blog. He wrote me about the movie and I asked him to write what he felt, and I truly enjoyed his perspective of this movie. Enjoy (and comment!)
 
So Tyler Perry did it again. But this time he let the world see a side of men that is normally taboo. It’s an unspoken rule that some secrets we (men) don’t tell anyone. Is it a good rule no but never the less it’s a taught rule. This movie showed how men think. If a woman let you come back after you have left her for some one else. That doesn’t mean that she overlooks what happen. That mean she is fighting against all she knows in order to hold on to the hope that this time it will work. Or just because a woman dresses sexy doesn’t mean she want sex. This movie really put a spotlight on how men treat women bad and think a little kiss & I’m sorry should erase all the pain. Men are taught that if you send roses it will be alright. Or a good night of lovemaking will cover a world of pain. The truth is that society has taught women that if they give the most precious thing that they have to you it will hopefully let you know how much they love you. I don’t want to spoil this movie so I can’t hit all the points I want to. After it has been out for a while then I can say more. I left the movie with a different outlook on a lot of things. I think men need to start raising their sons to be good fathers and or husbands. We have to stop raising them to be hunters. Teach them what abuse is and its effect. We hear a lot about physical abuse, but very little on emotional or verbal abuse. This movie exposes both. And one more point and it’s the most important. It shows how a woman has the ability to see without looking. How they can do every day things, while covering hours of pain with a smile. So maybe we need a new label for these women. Maybe downlow women, the live seemingly happy and satisfied when really down low in their souls they are scared, sad, angry and looking for a way out. This is just my opinion. Watch the movie and give yours. MR. MAN.

A Woman's Perspective: For Colored Girls Movie Review (comments welcome)

I went to see For Colored Girls this past Friday with one of my BFF's around lunch time. We were both given charms as we walked into the theatre and were asked to wear them until the string breaks. When the string breaks, your dream is supposed to come true. Great marketing but it also made us anticipate an excitement about what this movie was about to deliver into our being.

I hear on Facebook that this is Tyler Perry's best movie ever. I will say, you can not compare it to the Madea chain at all. So if you compare it to The Family that Preys, yes it's the best. But that is what you are supposed to do - get better each time, so I am extremely proud of his continual growth before our very eyes.
Now! Let's dig in. I have never seen the play or read this book, so I only have the movie to go on. It was a really good movie and I enjoyed it. It's funny because it's parts of the movie that the women break into monologues, and you're either going to say, "Oooh, they are deep!" or "What in the world are they saying?" I believe,  I liked Loretta Devine's monologue the best.

Besides the fact that the title is For Color Girls, based on the play/book - to me, the movie isn't color specific. Women of all races can go through these same issues. Not Only Colored Women marry a man on the down low, Not Only Colored Women can have their man lose their mind after they come back from a war, Not Only Colored Women have a husband that beats them and they still stay, Not Only Colored Women were molested and act out with promiscuity, Not Only Colored Women get pregnant at 17 and have to decide between life and abortion, Not Only Colored Women let a man keep coming back again and again hoping each time it will be different. Not Only Colored Women get date raped when it wasn't their fault. Not Only Colored Women reach a level of success that they forget where they come from. Not Only Colored Women get HIV from someone they love. NOT ONLY COLORED WOMEN, but we probably handle it different.

Decisions, decisions, decisions. This movie is all about decisions. The male perspective talked about how men treat us and maybe they should be taught a different way, well from my perspective the women GAVE THEIR POWER AWAY! Too many times women give their power away to a man and it ruins us! We give our power away because of fear of being alone, losing him, or whatever.....Sometimes, women don't even realize they even have power. Remember men want what we have and you should never just give it away. I was not a specific women in this movie. If I would have been a character, I would have been in addition to the cast. Although, I did see myself mostly in Kerry Washington's character. I say that because, sometime I see wrong or know what I should do but being consumed in my own world - you miss an opportunity to help who you should have been helping all along. This movie made me think of choices I have made in my past and how I have had to deal with some regrets. It also showed me that I am blessed beyond measure because for some of the women in the movie - their choices ROCKED THEIR WORLD into a new world!

In my conclusion, the common theme in this movie is women being hurt by A MAN! I didn't even realized that until I left the theatre. That only makes me go back to knowing you hold a POWER that you should take advantage of more often and stop bending and breaking for these men! That doesn't mean be disrespectful to them or talk down to them or treat them crazy - but it means know WHO YOU ARE WITHOUT THEM and don't settle for mess. Have a standard for yourself and keep it. You may save yourself unwanted tears.