I have joined an accountability group! Write it down, Make it Happen!

This is year is going to be different! This is going to be MY YEAR! This year is blah blah this and blah blah that! But do you say that every year? What about 2012 is going to be different? Are your actions going to change? Have you transitioned your mindset? I am just asking because if it hasn't then I guess 2013 is going to be your year.


This year I am doing something different. I have joined an accountability group. We actually had our first meeting a few days ago. We have agreed to meet every other week for lunch! What is an accountability group? It's similar to an investment group, but the stock is in ourselves and the dividends pay a higher yield than most mutual funds. I recently read the book Write it down, Make it happen by Henriette Klauser and she is in a similar group. That is actually where I got this idea from. She read a book called Wishcraft, by Barbara Sher, and that's where she got the idea from. Sher recommends meeting on a consistent schedule with what she calls "success teams" to support each other in making dreams a reality.

The set-up is simple. Each week in a little memo book, write down your respective mini-goals, the piece of the puzzle that will eventually make the big picture: "By next week I will...." And then copy, as well, the others persons' promises. This not only makes each of you committed, it also makes you accountable.

Henriette reveals the two most important questions you can ask a person who is serious about moving forward in a project, any project, are:
1) What will you do next?
2) By when will you do it?

And the third key ingredient is the principle of "Return and Report." That simply means you can let the person know asap when you have completed a project (or wait until the next meeting). If you call, make it a business call. Hang up and call back if you want to chat. Your group goal needs to offer that kind of unconditional bias. A goal group is no place for "tough love" or ultimatums. The key is positive reinforcement.

Week after week, step by step. The new small business is successfully launched, the trip taken, the foreign language facilitated. The walk turns to a run as you triumphantly cross the finish line and look around for the next challenge. My vision groups goal is to challenge each other stretch, to reach higher than what we think we can do. I do have a little secret about my group; it's just two of us! That's right. And I know my friend (she might want to remain nameless for now) and I are both go-getters and very driven, so I am looking forward to what we can accomplish in 2012! I am so excited.

I didn't give a full review of this book in this blog post because today was mostly about my accountability group. I will say this book is GREAT. I really enjoyed it and plan to continue to refer back to it for motivation as well as new ideas. It really makes you "think" about your goals in a different way. It makes you want to approach them differently and expediently, at least it did for me. I already write a journal, but how I write in my journal will forever be changed. I bought this off of amazon for .12!! I caught a deal that day. #loveit

Excerpts from this blog were taking from the book Write it down; Make it happen by Henriette Klauser.

I finally got to meet "DERWIN" from "The GAME!"

I have a vision board and on the board I have a section that says, Meet These People... Well on that list is Oprah, The Obamas, Tyler Perry, Mary J Bilge & The Cast of the Game. Well well well, last week I got the opportunity to be an extra on the set of BET's "The GAME"! When I got the call, I called ev-ver-ry-bod-dy!! I was just going to be an extra, but I was also going to meet my long time tv crush! I am natural (without relaxer) and I usually wear my hair in twist or in a protective style* (email me and I will tell you more about hair care!). But when I got the call, I headed straight to the Dominicans and got my hair straightened, got my lashes and make-up done! Do you like my dress? I do. I also LOVE that is was only $6 at Target! We had to come to the set with make-up already ready. I knew I was fine that day! LOL!

When I got to set they made me change to this purple dress. :( For the scene we where shooting for, the purple dress was more appropriate. I guess. So be on the look out for me in the background sometime in February in my purple dress with my feather boa! I don't say anything but give a facial expression here and there! So... did I meet Pooch Hall? Yes I did. It was quick, fast and in a freaking hurry. It's so funny because we shot for two days and we were in the room together for both those days. He was even arms touching lengths away from me so many times, I almost choked! (Well the first day I did. By the second I was cool). So day 1, I said to myself, it's either now or never. So, we were standing near each other watching Malik and Jason act a scene out. I leaned over and said, "Hello Pooch! I have always wanted to meet you! I love your character and I am a twitter follower!" He smiled and said, "Oh really! That's what's up!" He put his hand out to shake my hand and said, "What's your name?" I told him. It looks like he was about to say something else to me but someone grabbed him away to do something. And that was the extent of our convo! The rest of the evening he didn't say anything nor did he the next day. He is very silly. He plays all the time. I think if it were an atmosphere where I could just be me, we would get along great but he was free to be himself. And I had to be "professional". Is he cute in person. Yes. Is he like Derwin, no. Will I still crush on him now. Probably not. Who will I crush on now? Malik. I could not stop staring at him. He was nice, slim, and so handsome. I didn't say anything to him until day 2. I just told him, I really like the show and keep up the good work. He said "Thank you and nice to meet you too!" ....... um um ummm. Also I met Jason Pitts! We actually had a convo about kids. He was a pleasure to speak with as well. I didn't get to meet the famous Tasha Mac because she wasn't there for my scene. I did get to meet Tia. I said "Hi Tia!" She said, "Hi!" smiled, and kept on walking. Yep. Kept on walking. I was kind of disappointed by that, mainly because I love her character and I wanted to really meet her and for her to just give me a "Hi!" and keep walking....well, at least I met her. 

I can say that 2 of my visions (on my vision board) came true this week. 1. I acted on a sitcom. 2. I met the cast of The Game. I will never forget this experience. Now I need my "Dancing with the Stars" vision to come true!