Meet the WIFE of the Week, Mrs. Arian Hall! Read how God is the head of this Marriage!

Hi Arian! How are you? I’m well, Bernetta! How is everything going?


I see a big smile on your face! You are a newlywed right? Absolutely! Totally loving it!

How long have you been married? We’re newbies, so Manny and I have been married for about a month and a half now.

Where are you from? I’m originally from Akron, Ohio by way of Landstuhl, Germany.

What do you do? I am a business owner. The BUSYSuite is a company that helps other business by offering virtual assisting in administrative support, social media management, and public relations/marketing. VELA Beauty is a blog and ministry for women and young ladies. I help my husband with his credit restoration company called 1 Stop Credit Solutions. He is so dedicated to helping people get their lives back and I just love being a part of it. So, I am running these three companies with my husband right now in addition to being a Budget Analyst at The University of Akron, finishing school, and raising our children.

Do you have children? Yes, I have three little ones.

Do you want more? We’re already the Brady Bunch, but, yes, we’re planning on having more.

How long did your husband court you? We courted for a little over a year and we also remained celibate throughout this time.

Did you all live together before saying I do? No, we did not. We had our own homes. Needless to say, he was showing me that he knew how to handle his business.

Where did you two meet? Manny and I officially met on the night of the First Annual Victory Awards banquet at “THE WORD” Church, which is our church. Prior to this event, we had seen each other in passing a myriad of times. He is a minister at our church, and I was a ministry leader at our Akron church location. This was the night that he told a friend of his that I was his type and that I was his wife. He didn’t know me, but he says that there was some sort of glow around me as if God was giving him the okay to pursue me. He won two awards that night, and I was really happy for him. En route to congratulate some friends of mine who also won awards, I tapped his arm and said, “Congrats on the awards!” He tried to find me so that he could talk to me, but he says that I disappeared like Cinderella. So, he decided to try to find me on Facebook except he didn’t know my name. He asked around about me, but since I did not fraternize with the brothers there wasn’t much information they could give him. He eventually found me on our pastor’s Facebook page –yeah, one out of 5,000 and not knowing my name!—and sent me an inbox message introducing himself. A large part of me liked that he contacted me and wanted to go out –I mean, he’s a handsome guy!—but another part of me was content being single and I did not want to go out with him unless God said it was okay. My reason was this: I did not want to be that girl who went out with every guy in the church. God really answered this prayer and preserved me because every other guy has said or done something weird that made me lose so much interest that I never went out with them. With Manny, everything was too good to be true. He met every quality of my list—yes, I had a list, and I recommend every single woman and man have one that they pray over. Girl, I was tripping and I liked how I was feeling when we talked, but I kept putting off going out with him. After going out with him and hitting it off –he didn’t say anything immature or crazy and I felt peace in my spirit –we talked for about two weeks and we would steal a minute or two to sit down and talk in between services at church. I called him and asked for a break. I told him that I needed two days with God to make sure that I was supposed to be seeing him. I felt myself getting caught up, you know? Manny said he was okay with taking two days off, but later on he confessed and said it was the longest two days of his life. Lol. God gave me the green light, and the rest is history.

Is he your soul-mate? How did you know? YES! He totally is. I knew because he and I have such a natural click. We can be goofy, serious, silly, corny, and whatever else around each other. It’s been like this from day one. I also knew after that two-day break.

Are you involved in your church? We are very involved in our church. We were involved heavily before we began a relationship together.

Was it important that your husband be involved in church? Yes. I grew up in the church. Although I have spent many years running away from my calling, I knew that I was called into ministry and if I am to be married then my husband needs to be serving and leading as well.

Could you love him if he was another religion? ex: Muslim To be honest, I do not think that I would have been able to fall in love with him if his belief system were not similar to my own. Although, I see people who are able to respect the other person’s beliefs in these situations, I wanted to be on the same page as my husband and be challenged to grow more in our faith together.

Do you think you would have even given him a chance? If had given him a chance, it would not have gone past the first date. The reason is because I knew exactly what I was looking for in a husband. I needed someone who would train up our children in a manner that ministers peace in my spirit as well. I needed someone who could hear from God and who could cover our family like a priest, bless our family like a prophet, and lead our family like a king. The only way that I believe a man can do this is with the help of the Holy Spirit.

What are you looking forward to the most from your marriage? I am looking forward to building a Kingdom legacy in our family, creating wealth in our family, and serving through ministry.

Have you had your first argument yet? What was it about? Lol. Of course. I lost the remote control… need I say more? Lol. He handled it well, but I could tell he was really bothered by not having it.

Did you two discuss gender roles?  Yes, we discussed these prior to getting married.

What do you love about him? What kinda drive you crazy about him? I absolutely love his smile. It can take me from 60 to 0 in a millisecond. I can never stay angry at him, even if he were all-the-way wrong. I love his arms, how he holds me, his determination for success, his work ethic, his heart for people, the way he loves and worships God, the way he loves the kids, and so many other things that I do not have time to list. He is such an awesome man of God. Something that drives me crazy about him is when he says that I’m wrong about something when I believe that I am actually right.

What are you marriage goals for 2012? What are your personal goals for 2012? My 2012 goals for my marriage would be to get to know my husband even better and to operate in my role more effectively. My husband is truly my best friend, and I want to keep it that way. We crack each other up. My personal goals for 2012 are to be able to manage our businesses full-time so that I can spend more time with my husband and my children and to grow 8 inches of hair! Lol. I’m natural and last year I did a lot of coloring, so I’m working on growing healthy hair rather than worrying about stylish hair. It’s shoulder-length right now, when straightened.

Do you have all your husband social networking passwords? Manny gave me his passwords when we were courting. So, yes, we have each other’s passwords.

Was your wedding day perfect? It was a beautiful day.

How do your children get along with your husband? Does he have children? I have two children (my son JT, 6, and my daughter Jae, 3) and he has a daughter (Savannah, 2). We both were single parents, and I believe this one of the reasons why we both asked tons of questions throughout the courtship. Our kids have been one of the least complicated parts in joining our families together. My children were very receptive to Manny and especially to his daughter. In fact, this was an answer to my son’s prayers, which he had been praying since he was 3 years old. His daughter has welcomed me and my kids into her little heart also.

How do you deal with a blended family? I really do not believe that there is one fool-proof way to make a blended family work because there are so many variables involved. Simply, we keep God at the center of all things. One thing we have learned is that both the role of the husband and the wife, according to the Bible, are types of Christ. Even more so in a blended family, when we take in children and family members who were not ours prior to the union, we have to walk in the likeness of God since He adopted us into His family when we accepted Him. Dealing with the co-parents is not always easy, but since we know our purpose we walk in the power of God each time we have to communicate with them.

How do you balance work, WIFE, mommy and business owner? Single moms do juggling acts all the time. As a single mom, I was building three businesses, working full-time, going to school, raising my little ones, and serving at church. I believe that period of my life has equipped me for this new juggling act. I always find time for myself; and that has been 40 minutes of working out at 5am each day with Sundays off or hair, nails, and a movie. During lunch breaks, I’m usually doing something that benefits my businesses or doing a project for school. When I get home, it’s family first. I feed everyone and get the house in order, go over homework with the kids, playtime and story time with the kids, spend some time on my businesses, and then it’s time with my husband. I firmly believe that we will make room for the things that we want to accomplish.

How does FAITH help you? Faith is everything. I honestly believe that I would go crazy without God holding me together and keeping me strong. I start my day by praying and reading my Bible because with all that I have going on, my patience could slip and someone’s feelings could get hurt. My mom spent a week in my shoes while I was on my honeymoon and she actually gave me kudos for all that I do. I have always looked at her as this great superwoman —and she truly is—whose shoes I could not fill and to hear her say that she admires what I do meant so much to me. The thing is that I know the strength to do all of this comes from God. I could not have transitioned from calling the shots as a single mom to a submissive wife without His coaching and steering. Also, having faith in my purpose also keeps me going after more and not settling for mediocrity. Faith is what keeps me believing that I will be the best wife, mother, business owner, and whatever other hats I decide wear that I am called to be.