Thursday, October 28, 2010

The NOSE, BREAST, TUMMY!!! What is next? Who is next? Me? You?

The Real Housewives of Atlanta have many fans. And one the breakout start herself is Mrs. Nene Leakes. This is the third season of the RHOA and she keeps bringing it harder and harder. Well this season she lets cameras follow her as she changes her appearance or "get a tune-up" as she calls it. Nene got a nose job, breast-lift and liposuction around the stomach area. Do you think she needed it or looks better or worse?

Well based on the two pictures in this blog she does look better but that's also make-up, lighting and photoshop? And don't we all want to look our best? I am not really upset at the fact she wanted to get a tune-up. I have read so many comments on other sites saying she messed herself up! If we tell the truth - we would probably tune ourselves up too (rather than just work out!) if we had the money to do so. I think the thing many people have a problem with is that she appeared to do it (the changes) once she hit "celebrity" status. Is that really new? So many people change their features when this happens? Is this right? I really can't say, but I do ask this question....why the nose? It seems that everyone wants to change their nose when they "get famous"! Does your nose really hold you back? And whose nose are you trying to get? Just asking.

So ladies, have you ever received plastic surgery? Have you ever thought about it? Is your appointment set? I haven't had plastic surgery but have I thought about it? Ummmmm, yep. What you ask? A breast lift. After 2 children and breast feeding ...... I will just leave it at that. I actually don't want implants, I have a good size but in most cases if you get them lifted, you have to get implants. So right now, I wear a great bra. It's funny because other women compliment my breast! I have been accused at my old job as having a boob job! I just laugh because I take it as a compliment. I say, "I just have good posture and wear a good bra!" Hold your back straight ladies! Makes a world of difference. Now the tummy is another area that I have considered. I did research on tummy tucks but honestly, I think I would be too afraid to go through with it. It's a year recovery too! But after having seen Nene get liposuction in the area - that might be an option (yeah right!). I didn't know you could do that! I actually don't need a tummy tuck. When I am at my exercise peek and not eating many processed carbs, my stomach is flat. And thanks to olive oil I don't have many stretch marks but a C-section leaves you with an unwanted pouch!

Look, if you have the money and you have a trusted doctor and you want a "tune-up" by all means do what makes YOU happy. YOU only. I really don't think I would get plastic surgery just FOR my husband. I guess I can say that because he likes me the way I am but altering myself (besides a tummy tuck or gastric bypass because some people need that) for someone else primarily is a major deal. If your husband asked you to change your nose, enhance your breast, lipo those thighs, whatever... would you do it? Just asking.

Nene Leakes' NEW Look!

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Have you ever made your hubby Hamburger helper?

My husband got mad at me today! Not mad enough that he didn't eat, but mad enough that he made a comment about what was for dinner tonight! I made Hamburger Helper. Its funny because growing up, my mom never made HH and I have only actually had it once or twice in college when a roommate (shout out to Tosha) cooked it. I have never made it before today. But last week I was in Kroger and was down that isle and saw it. I stopped and read the box and thought, "hmmmm this might be something the kids would like with ground turkey!" So I bought it.

Today, I was looking for something quick to make because I had to go to Mime rehearsal (dance ministry). I open the pantry and the HH said, "Cook me today!" So I did. I did make steamed peas and carrots to go with it. My husband came in the kitchen and said, "Babe, are you serious? Not Hamburger Helper!" I didn't see anything wrong with it. He start walking around the house complaining, then coming back in the kitchen complaining! I got upset, "Like, look! Do you want to cook? Because you know you can?" My husband cooks when we grill out or we or having guest and the meal needs his throw down touch . Other than that I am the cook! By all means I don't mind if he touches the cookware everynow and again. I just hate when he complains or tells me what to add or not to add when he is not at least cooking with me! I told him, I don't need a kitchen manager!

So he starts fixing his plate as I am getting ready to leave. My son is fine with it by the way. So I go back in the kitchen to look at his plate. He gave my 5 year old son more than himself! My hubby has 2 tablespoons of HH! I shook my head and walked out. He said, "I'm a grown man! Ask the people on your blog if they feed their man HH!?" I said, "I will!" And I left.
Why Isnt Forever Easy

Monday, October 25, 2010

Her mother said, "If you want a husband, you gotta start having sex!"

On my way home from taking my daughter to school I turned on the Steve Harvey Morning show, and heard the strawberry letter. Read below:

I am a beautiful, shy, intelligent 27 year old virgin who recently ended a 6 months relationship with my boyfriend that I met online. I started online dating again and communicated with this guy that we have a lot of shared interest. Conversation was good until we started talking about our views on premarital sex. I told him that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex of any kind. He told me that most men want sex and that he needs to feel close to the person that he is in a relationship with. His previous relationship ended because his girlfriends stop having sex with him. He told me that he respects my views, so he feels our relationship would not work. I told my mother the situation and she agreed with the guy, she jokingly hinted that I should have premarital sex or I might end up alone. She said that it is rare to find a man that would wait until marriage to have sex. Is this true and are my standards set too high? My mother also thinks that I will be missing out on a good guy for me if I do not start sleeping with these guys before marriage. I am confuse, and I don't know what to think. I fear that I might end up alone if I don't change my views. Society glorifies premarital sex and looks down on you if you are a virgin at a certain age. I read your book and I know you said that guys like standards but is my standard unreasonable? Thank you.

The thing that shocked me the most were the comments that came from her mother. You would expect something like that from friends (sometimes) or even guys, but your mother? Usually the mother is the main one, telling her daughter to hold on to her values. It just really surprised me. I am Christian and try to live my life with those standards (that doesn't mean I am perfect, I have done wrong before and it's a chance I will again). With that being said, I would not ever push my daughter into something that is immoral based on values. Having sex before marriage is not against the law but based on beliefs (of what the lady who wrote the letter believes) its a standard she has set for herself. Most mothers (parents) have a desire to raise their children better than how they were raised. Even if they had a great childhood, a parent would raise them with their great values (they grew up with) and add to that. To hear a mother who has a child - who is actually striving to maintain certain values and not settle - actually tell her that maybe she should go against this standard to get something (that may or may not happen) was unsettling. How many guys have you had sex with? How many proposed? Just asking.

Steve Harvey gave great advice. I gave the same advice but nobody heard me because I was in my car talking to the radio. Steve said that she should not give in. If she set standards for herself, she should not lower her standards because a man is threatening to walk away. If she was dating this man for 6 months and he is willing to walk away because she won't give him sex, than he really doesn't love her (because if he did he would wait) and maybe he is not HER man (meaning not the one for her.). One good point that was brought up, did she discuss her choice before they got to deeply involved? I would not wait 6 months to tell a guy I don't want to have sex before marriage but I wouldn't tell him on the first date either. Somewhere in between the first kiss and the first sex conversation. Another great point that was brought up, was that the guy has a right to also want what he wants. Which is true. If he has standards that he requires or desires sex before marriage then he has that right. The tussle come in because - who is going to bend on their requirements or standards? You or Him? If you waited 27 years to have sex and after 6 months a guy threatens to leave if you don't give it up - is it (your virginity) worth keeping or giving? What if you give it up and he still doesn't marry you? What if he does? Is it worth a try?

The other main issue here is that so many women lower their standards now-a-days for fear of not getting or keeping a man. It's a difference between standards and compromise. For example, if you hate potato salad but your man loves it, you can compromise. He can not eat it around you or not expect for you to cook it. But it's nothing to break up over. But say you don't have a desire to smoke. For me, any man that smokes is my personal deal breaker. It's a health thing, plus it stinks and the second hand issues. So [single] ladies, know your standards/deal-breakers versus what you are willing to compromise and stick with it. You deserve to be happy because marriage is hard enough when he is the one, and when he is the perfect one for you! Can you imagine what marriage will be like if you gave in - in the beginning of the relationship for fear or because you thought you could change that man! (OMG that is another blog - changing a man!)

Friday, October 22, 2010

Keeping Up Appearances! Do you care how your husband sees you?

Tonight I tried Zumba (an exercise that is all the rage) for the first time! I really had a good time. I was a guest of a friend and would enjoy going back. Before my cruise in August, my husband and I were going hard at P90x but when we came back not so much. My husband completely slowed down but I maintained working out (on the treadmill, which is my usual workout of choice). One day my husband came in the room and saw me after my workout and said, "Whoa Baby! You are looking good! I have to get back on it!" And I actually can't find the first disk of our P90x and my husband has been asking me for over 2 weeks for it. He really wants to get back on it and acts like I am preventing him for doing that. He actually has a full body gym in the basement but acts like because I can't find one dvd, he can't work out!

One thing about me is that I have always had a desire to maintain my size and age gracefully. I started working out in high school because I ran track and that has continued through adulthood (working out). That brought me to thinking, married ladies, do you work at keeping yourself up for yourself, your hubby, or really don't work at keeping yourself up. I believe the percentage is about 80% keeping myself up for me and 20% for my husband. I say only 20% because I believe that I would be doing it whether I was married or not. But I do want to always "have it going on" in the eyes of my husband.

Some women don't keep themselves up at all. Some women think, I married him and he loves me. He's not going anywhere. And that may be true but goodness, if you can be better wouldn't you want to. Don't you want your husband to look at you and still be SUPER attracted to you? And this has nothing to do with being skinny or having a low weight. This is about the total package. The appearance. Do you ever do your hair anymore? Does he always see you in a hair wrap? Or just not combed? Are you always in your house coat or just drab? Do you go to bed in your flannel pj's or do you pull out the "sexy" every once in a while? And even though life happens and keeps you busy - what's wrong with working out here and there. Eating less and better more often? I am not saying by any means that not doing any of these things will make your hubby go astray but again, don't you just still want him to be "Wowed!" by you sometimes?

It's always nice to get compliments from friends and strangers that I look nice on a particular day. It's just a different feeling when my husband tells me, "You look really nice!" And he gives me this nod like, she is doing it. And I know he means it. I wouldn't care if anyone else said a word.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Have you checked your BREAST today?

This month WIFE (Why Isn't Forever Easy) supports Breast Cancer Awareness Month. There are walks all around the nation and if you can go out and walk for the cause. If you know someone who is currently going through Breast Cancer, call and give them some support. If you know a survivor, there is still a way you can show support.

Breast cancer is the most common cancer in women in the United States, aside from skin cancer. According to the American Cancer Society (ACS), an estimated 192,370 new cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to be diagnosed among women in the United States this year. An estimated 40,170 women are expected to die from the disease in 2009 alone. Today, there are about 2.5 million breast cancer survivors living in the United States.Breast cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death in women (after lung cancer). Although African-American women have a slightly lower incidence of breast cancer after age 40 than Caucasian women, they have a slightly higher incidence rate of breast cancer before age 40. However, African-American women are more likely to die from breast cancer at every age. Breast cancer is much less common in males; by comparison, the disease is about 100 times more common among women. According to the American Cancer Society, an estimated 1,910 new cases of invasive breast cancer are expected to be diagnosed among men in the United States in 2009.
Early Detection
One of the earliest signs of breast cancer can be an abnormality that shows up on a mammogram before it can be felt. The most common signs of breast cancer are a lump in the breast; abnormal thickening of the breast; or a change in the shape or color of the breast. Finding a lump or change in your breast does not necessarily mean you have breast cancer. Additional changes that may also be signs of breast cancer include:
  • Any new, hard lump or thickening in any part of the breast
  • Change in breast size or shape
  • Dimpling or puckering of the skin
  • Swelling, redness or warmth that does not go away
  • Pain in one spot that does not vary with your monthly cycle
  • Pulling in of the nipple
  • Nipple discharge that starts suddenly and appears only in one breast
  • An itchy, sore or scaling area on one nipple
Mammography screening
Mammography screening remains the best available method to detect breast cancer early. However, no medical test is always 100 percent accurate, and mammography is no exception. Research is under way to improve the technology to lead to better accuracy and to create new technologies.

In 1992, the U.S. Congress passed the Mammography Quality Standards Act to ensure that mammography facilities throughout the country are of high quality and are reliable. To lawfully perform mammography, each facility must prominently display a certificate issued by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA). This certificate serves as evidence that the facility meets quality standards.

It is important for women to practice the elements of good breast health. It is suggested women:

  • Obtain regular mammography screening starting at the age of 40
  • Obtain annual clinical breast exams
  • Perform monthly breast-self exams
  • Obtain a risk assessment from a physician

Monday, October 18, 2010

Monica engaged after 4 months of dating. How soon is too soon?

The news hit the media yesterday the R & B songbird, Monica, recently received a 10 karat engagement ring from her NBA Basketball Boo! They have only been dating 4 months. How soon is too soon to meet someone, get engaged and get married? I am just asking. Do you think Shannon (her beau's name) is a rebound love, due to the fact she had just come out of a very long relationship with Rocko (the father of her 2 children)? She was actually the topic of discussion today on V103 (Atlanta radio station) and the host Frank Ski said, "Sometimes when you meet your soulmate, you just know!"

So does that mean, Monica and Shannon are soulmates? Just asking. Experts say that you should at least date a person a year because for the first year most people are on their best behavior and then the real them starts to emerge. But but but it's a hard thing to do when people date for years, get married and still get divorced. So I guess, it's like - "We know we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together."

I pray it works out for the best and that its the best decision for her. One thing I do not like (not about Monica) about celebrities is how some treat marriage like dating. Married today, divorced tomorrow. Celebrities don't appear to try to work it out as much as the common folk (don't get offended, just a jokey joke) do. Maybe because they have money and its easier to walk away, I am not sure. But marriage is serious business and shouldn't be entered into lightly nor should you walk away from it so easily. Just my thoughts. What are yours?
Why Isnt Forever Easy

Friday, October 15, 2010

He wants a WHAT? A DIVORCE!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Now this story is not about me and my husband, but  it really did touch my heart. I thought about him (my hubby) throughout the story and our intimacy and even what the wife might have been thinking. The ending shocked me more than anything. You really never know what you have until you almost lose it or actually do lose it. I would have love to see her alive and see what could have been restored in their marriage and relationship. Now I am left thinking what is next for the husband. I felt his heartbreak when he said what he saw when he came home. Marriage is work period. And when I say marriage, I don't mean the children aspect but the Marriage-Husband/Wife relationship. You have to work daily to make your relationship the way you want it. It is ok if it's a work in progress. As long as it's progressing daily for the better. My husband once told me that it's worth it for us to be married 20 years if we get better every year, because it's not about now but about the end result. I was really shocked at that statement, because I know I drive my husband crazy at times. The fact that he still wants to make it to the end and looks forward to how we progress left me speechless. Have a great weekend and have a happy marriage.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Deal Breakers? Sheree's New Boyfriend FRAUD (Fake Doctor)! Gwen Stephani's Husband - had a SAME SEX fling!

Sheree is currently dating a man named Tiy-E Muhammed, who calls himself a Doctor. The two met during a blind date on the show (which aired earlier in the week) and they're now seriously dating. Well, EXCLUSIVELY learned that Sheree's current boyfriend was BUSTED for being a FRAUD. You see, in 2005 he was FIRED from Clark Atlanta University for FRAUDULENTLY calling himself a doctor. Apparently he never went to med school, nor did he have his PhD.

Here's how the Atlanta Journal Constitution reported it back in '05:
Muhammad, 35, says he's a doctor, but he didn't earn a Ph.D. in psychology at the school from which he has said he graduated, school records show. In fact, he attended Southern Illinois University for just one semester as an unspecified graduate student, said SIU spokesman Tom Woolf.

Muhammad said he left Clark Atlanta, where he was an associate professor in the psychology department for four years, because he wasn't paid enough and he"no longer felt that spark" from teaching. School officials said he left after they discovered his credentials were bogus. Muhammad, who received a master's degree in guidance and counseling from Eastern Illinois University, said Monday he was unaware that claiming to be a psychologist without a license was illegal. "I checked it out when I moved here. 's not against the law," he said. But when a reporter read Muhammad the Georgia Law Code that relates to psychologists (Sec. 43-39-7), he said, "I'm a life coach, I say I'm a life coach. It makes things simpler."

Gwen Stephani's husband has had a homosexual relationship. Here is how Mediatakeout reported it:
Here's how the NY Daily News is reporting it:
A source close to the Bush front man tells us he's "seriously regretting" going on the record with the publication about his 1980s affair with gender-bending pop singer Marilyn (nee Peter Robinson) - in part, because he then had to come clean with his wife.

In the article, which posted on Details' website on Monday (and will be available on newsstands Oct. 19), Rossdale admits to the long-rumored affair after writer Jonah Weiner asks him if the relationship, which took place when Rossdale was 17 years old, was a case of "one-time experimentation."

The rocker responded, "Yeah. That was it." But our source tells us (and another confirms) that after the interview, Rossdale approached the publication's editors and "pleaded with them" not to print the admission. Details chose to run with its scoop.

OKAY!! So would this be a deal breaker for you. If you found out your husband had a sexual affair or conquest when he was a teenager (and shoot, possibly when he was a little older too) before he married you. Would you then leave him? Man, that is a hard one. I pray I never have to find out anything on that level about my husband. But she will probably stay.

If they guy you are dating (in Sheree's case) claimed to be one thing and it was found out (through the media) that he wasn't, you would break up with him. To call yourself a doctor when you are clearly NOT is big deal. The thing that made me laugh was when he said, "It isn't again the law, I looked it up!" What in the world! It always makes me shake my head how people get away with such things or think they will. And to think, he did teach for 4 years as a Doctor.! If I were his former students I would be upset at that. In Sheree's case, I wonder if she would stay. Maybe if it hadn't hit the media and embarrassed her like it did today she might stay because I am sure he gave her some lame game about the situation and she believed him. BUT now that it's in the Media and probably more information about him came out then he probably told her, she might think twice. Time will tell.

So is it a deal breaker? Have you ever found out anything about your spouse or vice versa that was?
*Inserts from today's blog were taken from Mediatakeout.*

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Book Review - Getting to Happy by Terry McMillian

I finished the book and I just sat still. I thought about the ladies like I really knew them. I sat there and I was actually really happy - for them. The book picks up 15 years later from where the last book left off. I think the best thing of all is that I was able to put a face to a name because of the actual movie 'Waiting to Exhale' starting Whitney Houston (Savannah), Angela Bassett (Bernadine), Loretta Divine (Gloria) and Lela Rochon (Robin). I actually finished the 373 page turner in about 4 days. I didn't want to put it down.

15 years later the ladies are still sassy, drama-filled, supportive of one another, making mistakes and working on their lives. The door is permanently closed on 40 and they are entrenched in their 50s as they set about rediscovering themselves as black women with grandchildren, mortgages, failed marriages and collapsed business ventures.

Savannah, who had not married at 40 in 'Waiting to Exhale,' is married in the sequel to Isaac, a carpenter, who builds decks, gazebos, fences and pergolas. He also loves pornography so much so that she files for divorce. Besides, he is Republican. "I felt like I was married to a Nazi or something.''

If that's not bad enough, Bernadine, who had just gotten divorced and met an amazing man, is now a failed business owner. But all that glitters isn't gold. She learns in a phone call from another woman that her husband is married to another woman -- the caller herself. Now, she spends her days in a haze of prescription drug self-medication, trying to forget what was and hoping for what will be.

"He's the scam artist, honey, not me,'' McMillan writes. "I just accidentally found his other wallet under the front seat of the car when I took it to the car wash, and there was the name James Wheeler and all kinds of credit cards. So, I realized this son-of-a-bitch has been playing me, too. How much has he hit you up for and how long have y'all been married?''

And bad girl, Robin, who was about to become a single mom after suffering through a string of failed relationships when readers last checked in on her, is still chasing her dream of getting married. She discovers online dating and is typing her way to love. In the end it amazes me how love, sometimes, is right in front of your or how we settle because of age or the fear of doing without.  

"There," McMillan writes. "I slide away from the computer and try to figure out what I can do to fill up the rest of the night or to make the time pass until I hear the computer letting me know I've got mail. I decide on laundry. I do three loads, including drying them and folding them...''

Gloria, who had given up all hope of falling in love, did get married in 'Waiting to Exhale' but in 'Getting to Happy' your mouth will drop when you read what happens. You will really wonder how could she ever get back to happy.

Though she writes in the prologue that she never intended to write a sequel, McMillan became excited thinking about what could have happened to these women. "And that's when I realized I had the perfect candidates for this story,'' she writes. " 'Getting to Happy' is the result. In this novel, these women learn how to heal past hurts, how to start doing things that stop them from feeling 'navy blue' instead of 'lemon yellow.' We all know that happiness isn't a permanent place you arrive at, but these women learn it's the choices you make along the way that contribute to how often you feel it.''

Excerpts of this review written by Lynette Holloway

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

What is a good age to let your son start going into the men's room - alone?

I ask this question because I have a 5 year old son and he still goes into the bathroom with me when we are out at restaurants, church or just public places. Of course if my husband is with us, he goes with daddy but when I take him - it's automatic he is coming into the bathroom with me. At church a couple of times, I let him go into the men's restroom but I looked inside first to make sure it was empty. Recently we went to the Center of Puppetry Arts and my son had to use it but my daughter wouldn't let go of daddy so I had to take my son. The ladies line was very long and there was no line for the men's room. I let him go in there but I couldn't go in first because it was a public bathroom. My son ran in before I could say, "WAIT!" I noticed it was a man in there (I could see him in the mirror) so I keep yelling every five seconds, "Are you ok? Hello! Are you ok? Come on!" I am sure the other men were like, "Come on lady!" But it's my son and he's only 5.

I know it's going to come a time when women aren't going to feel comfortable with a little boy in the ladies room anymore and maybe it will come a time when my son won't feel comfortable. He's already started mentioning to me he is supposed to go into the 'boys' room. I am just not ready to just let him go by himself because people are CRA-ZEY and I want to protect my son. So what's a good age? 7, 8, 9? What?

Monday, October 4, 2010

My take on The Real Housewives of Atlanta Premiere tonight on Bravo!

Good Evening/Morning ladies!

Did you all see the RHOA! OMG! I will be blogging weekly about it if you want to revisit this site next week and every week! Also, if you subscribe above to all comments and then leave a comment you will be notified (like Facebook) when someone comments so you can see what they said!

Ok. Let's dig in! The show started with Shree acting! She said she put SHE by Sheeree on hold to act! Ummm Ok, if you say so! She said she can see herself getting an Oscar one day! She might. I do believe in positive thinking. Nene starts her scene off talking about Kim being bi-sexual in an article she saw in a magazine. Kim makes her scene debut in a White Bentley! Kim's hair was looking the best it's ever looked I must say. She visited Nene in her new home, but why are they dressed like they are doing a magazine shoot just to meet at Nene's house and chit chat?!

Kim admitted that she is Bi-sexual and never had a connection before with another woman until now. Nene stated that Greg hasn't been bringing in money like he used to because of the Real Estate market and he spends alot of time around the house now. The dynamics of the house has changed since she is now making more money now (because of BRAVO!). Kim dropped a bomb on Nene - she told her that Dwight said he loaned Greg $10,000 because Greg asked and was low on cash! Nene said of course she didn't know that and didn't appreciate Dwight putting her business out there like that. She then went in on Dwight, talking about "If he had $10,000 he would have gotten his nose fixed!"

Kandi made her entrance talking about her new beau and how she met him. She said he flew down there to meet her! WHAT! Wendy Williams said he looked like a opportunist and might just want to be on TV. Mediatakout also reported he still currently lives with his girlfriend who just had his baby. So, time will tell. And I love love love Kandi, she's my favorite even though she is isn't married but I want her to try some different hairstyles. They showed some scenes with Kandi and her new boo. My first impression is a nice one but she surprised him when she said she didn't want to have sex until December! So he said, "Does that mean oral?" SMDH!

Phaedra is a new housewife this season. She is from Athens, Georgia. She is also an entertainment lawyer. And seems like she really has the housewife money we expected ALL the real housewives to have BEFORE they started the show! And she shared that she knew Nene growing up and Nene wasn't viewed as very lady like.

Greg (Nene's husband) said he never asked Dwight for the money ($10,000). He did say they went in on an investment of $500 a piece and the deal fell through! That is a big difference. Nene just talks to him any kind of way! I mean it's one thing when camera's aren't around but Geesh! I felt bad for him - alittle bit. She also said she is not in love with Greg anymore! She is really putting it out there. Also, Dwight said he put $30,000 into Sheree's fashion show - which she denies! Nene and the housewives were at a very nice event and she saw Dwight and went off! Amazing - but not in a good way. It really made me feel like it was for the cameras because in real life would you really act like that! Really? She had her hands in his face, yelling, breathing on him. Good for TV but not a good look.

In conclusion, I don't know, maybe it's just me but this season they seem more like they are acting or trying to act in front of the camera. It's like they know they are kinda famous and it comes across on camera. It seems like they mentioned a few times that they hadn't seen each other UNTIL taping started. So are you all acting like you are cool for the camera and really don't talk to each other until taping? To me the show doesn't need the new model chick (maybe because she wasn't on this episode!) They are fine with the everyone else. They have enough drama already. It looks like this season will be much of the last two seasons - DRAMA! And it seems like we will be there to watch!