Monday, January 31, 2011

Happy 1st Year Bloggerversary!!

It's been 1 year since I started this blog! I can't believe how fast time has flown by. I have truly learned some things about the Internet. I am also still learning and will be striving to "BE BETTER" during 2011. Not just in my blog but I want to be better in every aspect of my life.

I was looking at the stats and over the course of the year I have had 10,009 visitors! Amazing, at least to me. A goal of mine is to give you better content, more money saving deals, and family changing opportunities. I welcome new topic ideas from you as well as affiliate programs. I also welcome any ideas you have for making this website better! I truly thank you for visiting my site and hope you share this link as much as you can with friends, family members or co-workers you feel might benefit from a topic.

W.I.F.E stands for Why Isn't Forever Easy. It was originally supposed to be a support group for married women. Married women have a range of emotions that are many times held in for a large number of reasons. I wanted to create a group or an outlet for these women to be able to share, release and even met other women they might relate to. I thought of this group about 4 years ago but then I got pregnant and life took control. I thought of the name immediately and always talked about what I wanted to do. But again, mommyhood and wifedom took over. So last year, I joined the blog world while still desiring in my heart to actually start the support group. Well, I am glad to say that this month I will also be holding my very first support group gathering! It will be an invitation only event and my desire is to grow via word of mouth. W.I.F.E has the potential to be a nationally recognized non-profit organization and with my hard work and member dedication it can be.

Thank you again Facebook Fans and Blog Fans!

Friday, January 28, 2011

Walmart now has ANTI-Aging Make-Up for 8-12 year olds? WTH!

What exactly is geoGirl?

It's a new line of 69 cosmetics products, from blush and mascara to exfoliators, aimed at the tween market. It's designed especially for young girls who want to use "real cosmetics, but with natural ingredients," says Joel Carden of Pacific World, the line's manufacturer. All products will be free of chemicals like paraben, phthalates, and sulfates, with a minimal use of synthetic colors and fragrances, a move "designed to attract parents worried about the excess chemicals in make-up," according to the Daily Mail.

Honestly, I don't care how "Natural" it is, my daughter (who is only 3 now by the way) is not going to be exfoliating her skin at 8, 9, 10, 11 or 12! It amazing how we as a society push looking young forever so much that now we are actually creating a make-up skin care line for young girls. I read some where that allowing our daughters to use these products shows them that their already natural beauty is not good enough at a young age. That could also get them addicted (strong word but I don't mean it like that) to make-up too early. I can see a little lip gloss (only) here and there. All girls see mommy getting ready in the mirror and want to do what she does, but I can't see my young daughter doing her own make-up like she really has somewhere to go! LOL! I am sure this line of cosmetics will be a hit because obviously there is a market for it. I really just think that we are pushing the idea that our natural beauty is not good enough at such a young age that it could also lead to self esteem issues early. It's going to interesting how this product effects the young girls that use it. It will also be interesting to see how their product line grows!  Will you buy it for your daughter?

Thursday, January 27, 2011

What is a total DEAL BREAKER for your marriage?

Another great friend gave me this topic! What is a total deal breaker for your marriage? If your husband cheats on you? If he has a baby with another woman while still married to you? If you find out he's on the down low but still wants to stay married? WHAT? What is a deal breaker? Believe it or not, these examples are not always a deal breaker for marriages. Some women (and men) forgive their spouses and stay married. It all depends on how much a person can handle and how much they are willing to deal with.

I really can't say that cheating would be a total deal breaker for me. It would depend on many things; how did I find out, who did he cheat with, was it a one time thing, does he love her, does he even want to stay with me now that he's caught? I can't say what I would or wouldn't do until something like that happens. That's another reason you can't judge another woman for staying or walking away. Only she knows what is really going on in that household. I will say this, if I found out  my man was on the DOWN LOW, I'm out! No questions or comments about it! #Dealbreaker! There are a few more deal breakers I could list, but this is not all about me. Feel free to share yours.

Monday, January 24, 2011

Mothers!! Question: To Immunize or not to immunize your child?

This topic was given to me by my friend "Lotta"! There has been a major debate over the last decade about immunizing your children. Do you or don't you? With the scare of autism, so many parents are having a hard decision to make. When I had my son, which was only 5 years ago - it was 1 in 166 boys get autism. Now 5 years later, it's 1 in 60! Doctors are still saying that immunizations don't cause or contribute to autism but if you ask mothers that have an autistic child they might say something different. Many mothers of autistic children noticed differences in their children shortly after 2 years of age and getting their shots. The whole thing was just scary to me. When my son turned 2, I literally prayed before I went to the doctor.

There are some pretty famous women who sons have autism and they are talked about the gluten in food effecting their child. By removing the gluten it seems to be helping their children so that's a good thing. So, the question is, do you immunize your child? I have given both my children all their shots at the time they were supposed to get them. I even had a good talk with their doctor before they got their shots, he again tried to reassure me but when you listen to other mothers - you just don't know who to believe. There was actually one case where the parents sued the doctors and won. Their daughter got autism right after her immunization but it was proven that they gave her the shots while she had a fever and that is a big no-no!

Besides autism, is there another reason you wouldn't immunize your children? I do think it's important because of all the diseases you are preventing. They even have a vaccine for chicken pocks now! WHAT! They didn't have that when I was growing up! Everybody had chicken pocks. I got mine in the 7th grade. I thought my life was over. I kept looking in the mirror crying! Now, you don't ever hear of kids having it. I am going to continue to give my children their vaccines and also continue to pray over my babies. What about you?

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Fashion SWAP is BACK ON!

The Fashion Swap is Back on! The ICE storm made us postpone the event. The ICE is now gone and the SWAP is back on ladies! It will be now 2.05.2011 at 6pm!

We ask that you do register HERE so we can get a proper head count! You will pay at the door, but still register.

Please click on the SWAP-Tastic link above to get the major details of the SWAP. Please email me for questions regarding this event.

*If you want to be a vendor or sponsor this event, please email me

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Oh! No she didn't reach over and grab my husband's french fry!

How familiar is too familiar? I was watching Ice Cube's show Are We There Yet on TNT and Pepa from the group Salt-n-Pepa guest stared as the lead character's field producer. They were each eating lunch in his home studio when his wife came in to tell him something. They were just talking but all of a sudden she reaches over her plate on to his and grabs a fry and eats it in front of his wife! Now he just met this woman hours before and she was already reaching over his plate! So after she left, of course the wife was going off about the fry! Her argument was that her eating off his plate is a little to familiar and he didn't see the big deal. But as a woman (or a wife) she knew exactly what she was doing. And by the end of the show, she did try to make a move on him. So my question is, how familiar is too familiar when it comes to other women and your husband?

After watching the show, I started thinking would I have a problem with a woman reaching over and eating off my husbands plate. And I think I would. I think I would even have a problem with my friends eating off his plate (UNLESS they asked first!). I also started thinking of other ways females might be too familiar with my own husband. I can't really think of any particular instance right now where a female was out of line but I know there are a couple of females that I am keeping my eye on. It's a weird feeling when a your husband is better friends with certain (females) people than you are but yet I do know them. Some of the chicks are married, some are not but I am watching them all. They smile like, "Hey B!" but when Earl comes around they act like they just need him to do so much! I am watching chicks! I'm watching!

Dinner with Terrance J 1.14.11

On Friday, January 14, 2011 I was given the opportunity to have dinner with Terrence J from 106 & Park and most recently The Game! The dinner was hosted by Rolling Out Magazine who is promoting along with Terrence J his new movie, The Heart Specialist. We also were given tickets to the movie as well. Terrence was so down to earth and very approachable. He answered every question you had for him and even shared some celebrity secrets! Also, it looks like we will be seeing alot of Mr. TJ on The Game so ladies stay tuned! I am married, so of course I am not on the market but to all the single ladies......he's single. It's so funny because my friends kept emailing me, "Tell him about me!"

The whole night was just fun. Rolling Out Magazine allowed us to experience a new restaurant Entice-A located downtown Atlanta and mingle with BET Elite.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Blackberry or Your Husband? 10 Signs Your Devices Are Hurting Your Relationships:

I heard this topic this morning on Regis and Kelly, but it was titled "Your Blackberry or your Wife?" The topic was very interesting to me because it went over the top 10 things that you or your husband may do that might actually be hurting your relationship!

10 Signs Your Devices Are Hurting Your Relationships:

1. You can't get through a meal without emailing, texting or talking on the phone.
2. You look at more than one screen at a time, checking email while watching television, for example.
3. You regularly email or text, other than for something urgent, while your partner or another family member is with you.
4. You sleep with your phone near you, and you check your email or texts while in bed.
5. You log onto your computer while in bed.
6. You have had an argument with a loved one about your use of technology.
7. You text or email while driving.
8. You no longer go outside for fun.
9. You never turn off your phone.
10. When you spend time with your family—a meal, a drive, hanging out—each person is looking at a different screen

When they read down this list, I felt bad because I do some of these things and so does my husband. It's funny because when he does some of these things, I get upset. I am going to send him this list and try to discuss some of our actions and see if we can tone it down a bit.
The following article is written by Elizabeth Bernstein. It is a really good read. I am really thinking about unplugging somethings!
For all our constant connectivity, our electronic devices often keep us apart. Texting causes misunderstandings. Facebook makes us jealous. Television makes us too lazy or tired or distracted for sex. (Don't believe me? A few years ago, an Italian study showed that couples who have a TV in the bedroom have sex half as often as those who do not.)

Some therapists prescribe tech cleanses for clients. Sharon Gilchrest O'Neill, a Mount Kisco, N.Y., marriage and family therapist, says technology is a distraction from family—and hard to resist because it's portable and provides instant gratification. It's also an easy escape if we're having trouble in a relationship. "Technology should be on the list of the top reasons why people divorce, along with money, sex and parenting," she says. She has seen couples who communicate almost entirely through text, email and phone messages. "There has to be some time in the week when you are all together and you shut off the technology," she says.

Last year, a group of Jewish artists and media professionals created the Sabbath Manifesto, a list of 10 principles to be followed one day a week in order to unwind. High on the list: "Avoid Technology." The group has declared a National Day of Unplugging, from sundown on Friday, March 4, until sundown on Saturday, March 5. Even the Dunphys, on hit TV sitcom "Modern Family," tried to go a week tech-free.

In "The Winter of Our Disconnect," a book coming out later this month, author Susan Maushart describes the technology fast she undertook with her three teenagers. Ms. Maushart says she was so attached to her iPhone that she slept with it under her pillow and started buying it "little outfits and jewelry." Her then-15-year-old son was addicted to videogames, and her 14- and 18-year-old daughters were consumed by social media.

"It got to the point where we would inhabit the same room, but we weren't connecting," says Ms. Maushart, 52, of Mattituck, N.Y.

For six months while living in Australia in 2009, she and her children unplugged everything with a screen. For entertainment, they went to the movies, ate family meals, played board games and read the newspaper on Saturday mornings. Her son rediscovered his saxophone. Her daughters began cooking and wrote a novel together.

To ensure her kids' participation, Ms. Maushart promised each a portion of her book proceeds. Her 14-year-old tired of the technology freeze and moved in with her father for six weeks (she eventually moved back). The trial was worth it. "We appreciate each other more," says Ms. Maushart.

Interested in a tech cleanse? Here are some tips from people who have learned from experience.
Give your family advance warning. They need time to prepare mentally.

Clarify your goal: Be careful not to swap technology use for some other isolating activity.

Wean yourself off gadgets gradually. Maybe a week—or even just one day—is too long to go unconnected at first.

Start when your kids are young. Rob and Lauren Webster tried a tech fast last year after realizing how often they plopped their kids, ages 1 and 2, in front of cartoons to keep them quiet. "I really don't want to screw up my kids," says Mr. Webster, 39, director of video production at a church in Leawood, Kan. When they unplugged and took the children to the park, "we found ourselves constantly engaged with our kids and with each other," he says.

Be clear on the rules. Will calls and emails for work be allowed? What about going online for homework? What are the consequences for cheating?

Let technology help you disconnect. Use Facebook, Twitter or email to tell friends and family that you will be offline. Have emails sent to your inbox in batches.

Make the bedroom a media-free zone.

When the cleanse is done, learn to avoid the time-suck of letting one Internet search lead to another and another. You can waste hours. Allow only one screen at a time. Give the TV, for example, your full attention, rather than also looking at your computer and iPhone.

The Broadnax family extended their tech cleanse for five days. Then one evening, Ms. Broadnax came home from work and found her husband and two daughters playing a trivia game, moving pieces around a game board and reading questions off the computer screen. All three were laughing. "Here was an almost perfect solution," says Ms. Broadnax. "It was family interaction with technology. The screen was there, but it wasn't the focal point."

Friday, January 7, 2011

"The GAME" is returning to BET 1.11.11

Are you ready? Are your ready? Are you ready? I am for sure. I have been waiting for almost 2 years for this show to return! And it will next Tuesday at 10pm est! I call myself the number 1 fan but I am sure there are thousands that have the same claim.

When this show went off the air in 2009, I was one the many fans that wrote the CW network president as well as signing the petition by Mara Brock Akil (show creator) to get the show back. I was upset when CW cancelled Girlfriends without giving Joan the wedding she deserved, so when the GAME got cancelled - I just couldn't believe it! Let's try to get BET to pick up Girlfriends too!

From what I read, when the Game returns it will pick up 2 years later. So Melanie and Derwin will be married and Melanie is trying to deal with Derwin's son! I wonder how Jenae is as the "Baby Mama!" Tasha Mac is dating Terrance J from 106 and park. She says, "I'm not a cougar, I'm a mountain lion!" Oooooh, I can't wait to see that! I liked her with Rick FOX "Rick-Fox"! But I guess times change. Meagan Good has also been added to the cast, but I am not sure what her role will be!

Whenever this show was on, my friends and I had an emailing party going on. We know it's just a show but we love the characters and really want the best for them. They make us laugh for real, make us cry, make us think and get us to talking! The show had good writing on the CW network (that's what got us hooked), so I hope it goes to another level while at BET! I know the show debut is going to be a hour but I wish it was an hour every week! I also believed they picked a good night too! Tuesday night - everybody is home! CW originally had them on Monday (which was another good night), then moved them to Sunday, then to Friday! I knew that was the beginnings of the end! Well, if you are a fan of the show - I meet you Tuesday night on BET!

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Happy New Year! What's New for you?

Happy New year everyone. 2010 is out and 2011 is in. I hope your holiday season was rewarding and relaxing. It always amazes me how fast time goes by and that's why it's important to make the best of every moment. For new years eve, we took our latest family portrait then I spent with the evening with my family at church (as we always do) bringing in the new year giving our God glory. Thanking God for allowing us to see another year. I also celebrate a birthday when the new year rings in, so I also celebrated Saturday evening with my husband and friends. It was just an all around good weekend.

I said a few years ago that I won't make resolutions but goals or life changes (I know, life changes sound like resolutions). This year my life change is to "Be Better!" And that is in every aspect of my life. I can be better and I need to be better. I want to be a better WIFE, mother, friend, business owner, employee, decision maker, house cleaner, cooker (yep!), listener, follower, leader, prayer, faith believer, and I could go on and on. I just want to do everything I do this year BETTER. I want to be a better me. For me it starts with my attitude. So I now start my journey and look forward to 12/31/2011 and seeing the results of this life change.

As far as WIFE is concerned, I have many goals for this organization and things I want to do. It's funny that a blog was never really the original idea. It was intended for it to be a support group for married women to meet, share and support. But life got in the way and blogging entered into my mind. This is a great outlet for us BUT for 2011, I plan to have that first social meeting.

I will say that if you have a goal, you need to work towards it everyday this year. Spend time everyday on your goal. Don't delay the outcome with procrastination. If you would like to share your resolution, goal, life change feel free! Happy New Year to all and thanks for supporting WIFE.

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