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I was just thinking as I always do. What doesn't you husband know about you?
And what he doesn't know, do you want him to know or do you never want him to know?
Alright ladies go at it!
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hmmm. There are a few things. One thing is that I kissed a guy after we were engaged, but before we got married. Is that the kind of stuff you're talking about???
well, one thing my husband doesn't know is that I am not in love with him anymore. I haven't been for years. Not sure how to get that love back.
Well lets see!! He does not know when we first got engaged, i was not sure if I made the right decision. I was still dealing with some feelings with an guy i was dating when me and my hubby was not together for a minute...one of those, I never really gave the other guy a chance to see how things could of worked out. At the time I was about to really give my all to this new relationship...my now hubby came crawling back in the picture. I had strong feelings and loved my hubby, but i always wonder. I dealt with this almost 2 months before our wedding.
Yeah thewifey! I feel ya! I still from time to time wonder if I should've made a different choice in mate. Especially when we are going through and it seems like there's no end to the misery. The grass MUST be greener on the other side of this! I think maybe I should've dated more before marrying. I don't think we're a match!
Oh that he married a freak and that when he is done I still need more and want more and usaully go get my BOB to help finish me off. Any advice ladies.......
Wow wife K! I wish my hubby was more of a freak. Well let me stay he might be a freak but he come so damn quick I can't tell. I mean dang! I will say this, I am unsatisfied as a wife in the sex area. He has good motion once he gets started but I think the fact that the foreplay is wack, I am not turned on to even get into sex ... so I just give it to him. I really need to have my mind blown! I might even treat him different if he blows my mind!
He doesn't know that I am contemplating leaving him if he doesn't stop being so controlling and not taking the things I want to do into consideration when it comes to our time and our budget. I can do bad all by myself!
Anonymous how many years do you have and is this like recent wanting to leave....... here is some food for thought are you ready to see him with someone else then if not dont do it wait it out and pray hard and long before you make a decision sometimes it not as bad as we think til you dont have at all luther vandross song I rather have bad times then be by myself it still cold outside :-D
wife k, I listened to Luther's song and I can't say that I agree with him. When it's 1-sided and he doesn't know how to treat you, and is not willing to try something new. There's nothing more that I can do there. I can't give you every detail, but that's what it boils down to. I don't want to settle for a "bad" man rather than none at all. That's never been me.
My soon to be ex-hubby doesn't know a lot about me. I write poetry, I'm creative, I'm saucy and I love him too much. I'm at the point where I don't even think he cares. But what I don't think he knows the most is that I really do love him, but I know that we need more than love to get us through the bad times. We need prayer! I love this blog! Thanks Mrs.WIFE
My husband doesn't know why I won't (french) kiss him anymore. We just do quick on-the-go pecks. He's such a great kisser but I can't tolerate his horrendous breath anymore. He's not big on going to the dentist or taking care of his teeth at home either (i.e., brushing and flossing regularly.) He must be used to it because he says he doesn't smell it. I told him his breath is was bad years ago, he went to the dentist and the dentist told him that he had several cavities and was in the beginning stages of gum disease. That is where the smell comes from. Those decaying teeth need to be taken out, replaced, and he needs to take care of his gums and teeth from then on. (Of course, we're talking about thousands of dollars worth of work, but I think it's worth it!) Even after alllll this and finding the cause, he never fixed the problem. So we never do any passionate kissing. Haven't for years. (I have kissed my ex more recently than my husband but that's a whole other story...) I miss kissing him sometimes and then he talks and I'm like "NEVERMIND!" and I offer him some gum or I just leave the room. It has really messed up our sex-life too since I consider kissing one of my favorite types of foreplay and have to turn myself on or it doesn't happen. I also refuse to ride him while facing him. (He sees this as a plus since then he gets to see my behind in action! Lol!) I just don't want him breathing in my direction but I can still smell his breath anyway. Y'all may think I'm over exaggerating but it is so bad that I'm constantly asking him if he pooted. Or when I'm in the bathroom having a BM, the smell reminds me of him. Anyway, I think I'll try one more time since he just mentioned the other night that "for some reason," I won't kiss him. Ugh! If that doesn't work, I don't know what else to do.
OMG! The last comment about the Hubby's BREATH! I am LMBO! I wish I knew who you were so I could give you a hug. I promise I love reading your comments. AND GIRLLLLLLLLL I wanna hear the story about you kissing your ex recently!!! I feel bad about the bad breath thing, man that is so sad. I cracked up when you said, you are constantly asking him if he pooted! I like deep kissing as foreplay as well, and me and my hubby don't do much of that either. He needs to go to the dentist too, but he stopped kissing me way before that happened. I asked him was it MY breath. He said NO. He was just never a kisser. I am WHATEVER, you was kissing me down when we were dating! You might want to make his behind go to the dentist! Because down the line........... you might stop being attracted to him. Does his friends think his breath stink?
Thanks, Laughing Wife. I'm the wife with the stinky-breath hubby. Thanks for being willing to give me a hug, cause I could sure use one because of that. :) This is the only place I feel I can speak freely about this issue. I still haven't brought the topic of him going to the dentist again like I said I would do in my earlier post. I don't know why these men won't just go to the dang dentist! I'm POSITIVE that his friends know his breath is out of control but of course they never say anything to me about it. I feel like they know I know though. Lol I try to send him to work with a pack of gum so that his coworkers can have a break every now and then but I wish we could just fix the problem. When we're at a store and he's talking to a salesperson or another customer, I feel sorry for them because I know what they're smelling and that it ain't good. If I can get him away from talking to that person for a sec, I can slip him some gum. I really don't think he is aware of how bad it is and he gets the "hints" from me and just takes the gum most of the time but I think he has really just become acclimated with the smell of it. I don't think I will stop being attracted to him but this does NOT help. We would definitely have more spontaneous sex and more quickies if we DID ever kiss. I know now that I get "wet" from kissing but since my husband and I don't kiss, I don't get "wet" and we have to use lubrication EVERY TIME. I revealed too much to my ex one night while I was at his house (when I had no business over there in the FIRST place) and I told him that my husband and I don't kiss anymore. And so he kissed me. And I slapped him. But then I kissed him back. Soon after I discovered that I DO GET WET! Just like I did 10 years ago when I was in my early twenties and doin' the deed. I was relieved and even more excited as I am kind of too young - I'm in my early 30s- to be "dry" when it's time to have sex. Of course back then all I had to do was THINK about sex or something sexual and that did it... Anyway, the kissing went back and forth for hours until I left his place and went back to my hotel room. Needless to say, if he had come to my room, we would've gone even further. So glad he didn't!
Girllll this is Laughing WIFE! OMG you sound like me! I am in my early 30's too... I get the WET thing too and b/c my hubby doesn't kiss me as much... he has to do other things to get me wet or I have to think of something else! I agree, I am too young to be using lubricate! But the story with the EX! wow... ummm I can relate to that too. I know you had to go back to your hotel and I am glad you did, b/c you would have did something, you might have regretted BUT didn't that kissing feel good! I am just keeping it real! And as far as the breath thing, I really thing, I would tell your husband. Keep telling him his breath stinks! Keep giving him gum, but keep telling him. Shoot make him a dentist appointment if you have to. Because besides the kiss you element, bad teeth can lead to other things going wrong in the body! It can lead to other sickness. So pleaseeee make him go. Put your foot down! Keep me updated!
Laughing Wife, I will keep you posted! Lol! And about my Ex, I'm trying to FORGET what it was like, okay?!? I'm going to make sure I speak up TODAY! I forgot that it can lead to other health problems. I will let you all know how it goes. I'm going to read up on ways to say it in a loving way now...
Okay, I just told him. I asked him if he remembered how much it was to get his cavities fixed. Then I told him the reason why I don't kiss him anymore is linked to that. He was like, "My breath stinks?!?" And I said, "Yes!!!" And then I told him I miss kissing him and that I have a list of things that I don't do anymore with him because of his breath. He didn't want to hear the rest of the list but was like, "Aight, cool." He was so laid back and calm about it (poker face, maybe?) and I was sitting there sweating! He said that he'll get his teeth fixed when "money permits" and that in the meantime, to keep the gum and mouthwash coming. I told him that doesn't work for long! I feel like I've gotten nowhere. Dental care will probably ALWAYS be at the bottom of his list of priorities. Ugh. At least it's out there and I was finally able to say something. Thanks for encouraging me to speak up, Laughing Wife! I would have continued to suffer in silence otherwise. :)
This is Laughing Wife!
That is awesome that you said something. Let me ask you this, do you have insurance? Is that why he said, when money permits? Look, there are so many dentist that do pay at you go. Don't feel like you haven't gotten anywhere, because you are right...he probably had the poker face. He didn't want you to know he was embrassed as a mug!!!! But I promise, he was sitting there thinking about his breath and if you thinks it stinks, who else thinks it stinks. And for you to tell him that you stop doing a list of things b/c it stinks probably hit him in the gut!
The next thing will be, is this enough to get him to actively seek out a dentist? Let's hope. Because if he does NOTHING, I would wonder does he care? But I am very happy that you were able to stand up and say it girl. That is step one.
I keep checking this post to see if you write back!
Kudos to you!! Now he knows that something needs to be done in order to get yalls intimacy back in order. Like LaughingWife said, it is definitely on his mind now so don't feel like you have gotten nowhere. He will do something about it. Dental work is alot of money but insurance covers the majority. Everything will work itself out.
Thanks, wives! Well, it's looking like my efforts didn't go ignored after all. He is more conscience of the fact that there is a problem so he's chewing a lot of gum and using Listerine. He's also making comments about it here and there. I hope that over time his doing something about it until the problem is fixed doesn't wear off. He is doing something for now so I appreciate that and I'm sure his coworkers do, too. Yes, we do have insurance but dental only fully covers preventative care like checkups and cleaning- not repairs. Then since some of those teeth have to be taken out completely (and replaced), he'll need to take vacation or sick days because he won't be able to work... We'll just have to work it out! I'll be praying that no health problems occur either. Thanks for the support, Wives! If anything new happens soon, I'll come right over to this site and let you all know about it! :)
Thanks, wives! Well, it's looking like my efforts didn't go ignored after all. He is more conscience of the fact that there is a problem so he's chewing a lot of gum and using Listerine. He's also making comments about it here and there. I hope that over time his doing something about it until the problem is fixed doesn't wear off. He is doing something for now so I appreciate that and I'm sure his coworkers do, too. Yes, we do have insurance but dental only fully covers preventative care like checkups and cleaning- not repairs. Then since some of those teeth have to be taken out completely (and replaced), he'll need to take vacation or sick days because he won't be able to work... We'll just have to work it out! I'll be praying that no health problems occur either. Thanks for the support, Wives! If anything new happens soon, I'll come right over to this site and let you all know about it! :)
I think that this whole conversation was AWESOME! This is exactly why this site was created ~ so wives can connect on a whole other level. I am so happy you told your husband about the situation and it seems he really listened and is trying to make a change. That is great! We support you! Thanks for also supporting WIFE.
The Wife!
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