This question was actually given to me on Facebook by a gentleman! So we decided to talk about it. Honestly, my husband does get to veto my clothing choices. If I walk out the room and he feels it's too tight or not that flattering I will take it off. Mainly because I trust his judgement in that area, but he does not pick and choose my clothes either. He does not tell me what I can or can not wear but if he feels it's too much crossing the line, he will step in! LOL.
I hope you enjoy the video. We have a new guest on the panel. And she tells it like it is! And please comment on the video and if your husband gets to VETO what you wear day to day and bed!
Part 1 of 2 (be sure to watch part 2, controlling husband?!)
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No my hubby does not get to VETO my clothing. Mainly because I don't wear anything that he would object to. I respect myself and him too much to go out representing US looking like "come and get me". So that's my answer...Nope he doesn't!!! Love the Blog!!
I think a smart man will discuss with his wife what he likes & dislike. It should not be about control, but more about respect. He should be able to let his wife know that she can wear what she wants. But also let her know what he thinks best complements her beautiful shape. Men have egos that need to be fed, but women have an emotional need to be complimented as well. In most cases women want to please their men and not embarrass him. And the same goes for us. We need to be mindful of what we wear and dress to impress our wives and not the women in the street. When we leave the house we represent not only one another but God as well. As far as the sleep wear it should depend on the mood that has been set before the night gets here. Don’t spend all day flirting and whispering sweet somethings to each other and then come to bed with rollers & pjs the cover everything from head to toe.And men we need to make sure we look the part as well. Like one pastor said when the mood is right don’t play At The Cross or Nearer My God To Thee. We all need a little Luther & Marvin & Al Green in our life (bedroom), lol. Bottom line is that in a relationship it’s all about communication. And should be done or said in love and care.
Mr Man.
My husband has never vetoed any of my clothing so if he did say something, I would know that I am probably wearing something that maybe I shouldn't be wearing. I do, however, ask his opinion about my clothes often mainly because I tend to forget I'm not 21 anymore and everything is not age appropriate for me as cute as it may be. He will be honest with me and I want that from him. I'm pretty conservative for the most part but I will jazz it up a little if I'm going out with the girls and he may make a little comment but usually doesn't say much. I actually think he likes it when we go out together and I dress a little sexy. Makes him feel good. Just my opinion.
My Hubby does get to VETO what I wear. He is very honest about things I wear. He will let me know IF its a "hot mess" or IF its cute. So I ask him what he thinks. Most often times he tells me that I am dressed appropriately for whatever it is I am doing, going to work, going out with the girls, going to a family function. He also asks me how does he look when he gets dressed as well. I also will let him know...."uhn huh Boo, that don't look right..." LOL But, we value each others opinion but we know how to dress appropriately for whatever the occasion. Also just like Chrissy stated I also dress 'sexy' when We (my Husband and I) are going out. What man doesn't want a woman dressed seductively on his arm?? LOL!! ;^)
I do value my husband's opinion, so I do ask him if I'm looking okay. He is very honest if he thinks I should try it again. I'm usually dressed appropriately and not displaying skin. I welcome any objection he has about my clothes and if it is something that he feels I shouldn't wear, I oblige.
I forgot to comment on what the hubby would prefer for me to retire in...LOL...he would prefer 'nothing' LOL!! But I try to wear something cute to bed to keep his interest...but sometimes, I just have to wear my pjs...cuz I am COLD!! Sorry Boo! ;^) LOL!!
You all have some great comments and I thank you all for sharing your stories. I especially thank Mr. Man for stepping in and giving us a Male perspective. And you are right Lotta, no one touched on the bed subject. But Mine is like your "Nada!" And if you are cold, get under the covers! LOL
I don't veto my wifes clothes but if she is about to make and EPIC FAIL then I will speak up cuz I love her. She would do and has done the same for me. For bed 80% of the time she sleeps naked anyway so I have no complaints. I do think she owns any vickies secrets, hmmmm. Its all going on the floor anyway.
I don't know who you are Brothers Corner! But I am glad you comment!! Thanks for supporting and keep it coming! I am having a male topic again next week!
Yes, I had a lot of sex appeal geared towards my ex-husband. He did not like the way I dressed over time. I guess he was looking for a trophy wife after all. So, he settled for his trophy wife. In french, his wife name is defined as expensive. I am sure, he did not do his homework. You know, I could have saved him a bundle, however he wanted kids, as this was his midlife crisis, it is nothing
I could have done, but walk away. I am proud to oblige him out of love for him. I could not give him what he wanted the most. He wanted to be a parent more than the love of his first love. I hope it was worth it, after all. Life is a lesson learned and whether you want to believe it or not, you must have the tenacity to overcome whatever obstacles comes your way.
For "the wife isn't easy",
I understand as a wife follower. I have been there and done that, so here is my advice for you, nothing else matters but "LOVE" without that key ingredient, you have absolutely nothing, without it.
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