Monday, November 15, 2010

Single Ladies, Married Ladies...What would you do? He told her he used to be GAY infront of her church!

Hello all, I was going to talk about a subject my friends brought up today (Married Women and Vibrators) but I heard this Strawberry Letter again from Steve Harvey and literally laughed out loud. Mainly because you do not hear this kind of story happening to a single lady looking (and hoping) for love everyday. Read for yourself.

Good Morning Steve, Shirley, Carla,Tommy, Eugene, and Ms Ann. I love you guys! Steve I have read your book and I have listen to you on your show about dating. I am proud to say that I have followed the 90 day rule when dating a man. As a matter of fact I have been dating this guy for 4 months and there has not been any sexual contact.

Well, I asked this man to attend a church revival service with me at my grandmothers church. My grandmother attends one of those country Holy Ghost speaking in tongues church that believes going down on your knees calling on Jesus until you foam at the mouth. I must admit that church service was awesome! The spirit was flowing everywhere. Well the Pastor got up and ask to anyone has any fiery testimony. Well my man jumped up and said I do! He yelled I must tell of the goodness of Jesus and how he has delivered me from homosexuality. He said, yes, i use to be a lover of men, but not anymore. Now i desire a woman and I am now blessed with a good woman and he pointed at me. I almost die. I had no ideal that this man use to be gay. He never told me about this.My grandmother was sitting over there in the mothers board corner and saying Lord have mercy...what this child done got herself in. I cant even meant in this letter what my uncle and bothers said. And my daddy who is the Preacher, he just looked at me and said I am glad your mother is dead, so she could not see this. What should I do. We have not had any sex and I don't think we will.
The responses to this post were a wide range of support for her equal with disgust with her and her family for being so judgemental. The story made me laugh because I could see her face when he said what he said and could actually imagine being embarrassed. Mainly because he dropped the bomb on her in front of everybody. How would you react? On one hand you're happy he felt he was in an atmosphere where he felt he could confess his past indirections and be free. But on the other hand, what a way to tell your new girlfriend you used to be gay! What would you do? How would you react? I could just imagine that after church conversation! Personally, I would not continue to date him. I'm glad he feels he has changed, but I think I would always have doubt in my mind that he would revert back or never really over his past actions. If you are gay, then that is your right - your decision. I also have a right to want what I want and that would be a man that doesn't have such a past lifestyle that isn't always so easy to walk away from. I would express my feelings and start anew. If you find out your husband had an alternative lifestyle before you got married would it change anything?


Lady G said...

Had I known for a fact that my ex-husband had an alternative lifestyle, I know damn well that I would not have married him in the first place. The only thing he said twenty-six years ago was that he was "different" and he didn't elaborate. Now, twelve years ago, I had to find out the truth about his bisexuality. Never trust a straight man who goes to a gay bar with another woman in tow. He had the nerve to place a bisexual man's phone number in his wallet. Ladies, I checked to make sure because I sensed he was cheating on me. I was devastated,but life goes on day by day and moment to moment. His current wife of three years is a genius intellectually, but has no idea that she's married to a bisexual man. I feel most sorry for the children who are now 18, 11, and 9 years old. The 18 yr old is not his, but this young man will be devastated as I once was. The younger children are too young to know the truth. I feel so sorry for his wife who loves him deeply that she cried tears of joy on their wedding day, August 31, 2007.

Chrissy said...

I don't think there is a such thing as 'use to be gay". I think you may choose not to act on your feelings because you believe the lifestyle is wrong but how long can you keep that up? Not forever. If I found out my husband "use to be gay" it would surely be the end of our marriage. I wouldn't sit around and wait for him to be gay again. I am sure it would happen. No thanks!

Keisha said...

If I found out my husband dabbled on the other side of the fence, I would be out of there. I am hetero and I want my man to have always been hetero!

That's a scary thing!

Jackie said...

If I found out that my husband was bisexual I would be gone. I’m 99.9% sure that every woman that found this out about their spouse would be gone.
Food for thought: Maybe that is why we have so many married men on the down low.

Anonymous said...

Gay is not a choice and I have yet to meet ONE gay person who chose to be gay. Gay people try to stop homosexual acts because it has been drummed into their heads that they are sinful, deviant, and going to hell.That being said, I don't think that one can be cured, through God or any other entity, of homosexuality. Because I believe this, I would have to let this man go, because even if he never sought out another man, I know that this is his true nature. By being with me, he is denying his true self and by being with him I denying myself the opportunity to be with someone who would really see me as a partner.