Married life isn't always easy, but with the right person - It is always worth it. This blog is my journey in the mighty married life, showing the good, bad & the great. The hubby, the kids & just life! Some topics are sensitive and some are a blast! Either way, I am going to try to enjoy life!
Monday, March 1, 2010
If your husband was a great guy ALL AROUND BUT BUT BUT he was WACK in the LOVEMAKING AREA, would you stay?
I had an interesting email from a WIFE. She asked me "If your husband was a great guy, had integrity, never thought he cheated on you, brought home the money, loved God and was a great father BUT didn't satisfy you in BED at all. Would you stay?" I was like wow! I am going to ask the ladies this question. I really couldn't tell a lady to stay or not. I believe it's what is most important you. Is everything else mention above important or is unbelievable sex important. I KNOW I KNOW great sex is important, BUT can you talk to him and tell him what he is not doing or is it just a lost cause? Also is the lack for good or great sex making you unhappy? Can you have a life without great sex? And say it doesn't get better, do you want to stay. Because you could get a man that BLOWS your mind sexually but has none of the other good qualites you mentioned above that your husband has. You are just taking a chance either way. Like I said, I wouldn't tell you to leave or stay, you know what you can live with or live without. I will say at least tell him how you want it girl! Show him how you want it girl! Give him a chance to get it right first. Or have you? LOL
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Great question. I believe that a great physical relationship is just as important as the emotional relationship. Therefore, if you are unhappy with one, it may lead you to be unhappy with the other. Men are very sensitive creatures when it comes to this topic. I don't know a good way to inform him that you would like more stimulation or whatever is lacking, without hurting his PRIDE/EGO! But I don't think leaving is going to solve your problem. I say spice things up a bit and maybe he'll catch the hint! Good luck!!
Mrs. Soon2BeHisEx
First you'd have to determine if you are still attracted to him because obviously if you are not then no matter what he did you wouldn't stay (or are you settling for the relationship) I would be opt to say yes you can stay in a relationship without mind blowing sex simply because other things should be thrown in the pot. Not other people other things. you got to always give them a chance to fix what's not satisfying you just as you would hope he would do the same for you. I believe LOVE is so much greater than the price we put on sex. But thank Goodness my bedroom is GGGGRRRREEAAT!!!!! LOL
If God is the head of his life then I feel you can work on the sex part. As his wife you make him a great lover. You take the driver set and if I you know how to work what you got he will be all you want him to be. As his wife do your part before moving on to another man that could be a bigger problem than what you already go.
I love how people are always throwing God in their comments! Not saying anything to the person that did that but sometimes....God doesn't have anything to do with it. You either got skills or you don't. I mean you can learn them but dang. What a turn off to half to teach your man what to do. I guess you can tell, that I am a wife who husband is unsatisfying. My husband is not wack in the bed, but I am just not feeling what he is bringing to the bedroom at all. I like what the second woman said about being attracted to him. And I don't think I am anymore. Besides the face that he doesn't hardly do any foreplay, french kiss (which is my main turn on), kiss on me (this man knows my spot but won't use it to his benefit) and then he don't eat the cooch as much as I need/want. I have no problem going down on him. I do it often, BUT I want my cooch ate and I get that once a f*cking year! I don't know what to do. He's a good husband too, but I am unsatisfied and not even turned on anymore. I give it a few more years but don't I deserve to be happy?
Ms. Thanks for the post, please don't take this the wrong way it's just a question. Do you think it's possible your husband is dissatisfied? I'm sure you are probably saying "Shoot, I got it going on". But do you really know he is satisfied. Have you had that conversation about what you both are doing for each other? Just curious.
I can make it work, if he is worth it. If I love this man and he does what he needs to do as a partner and a father. Then I can help him in the bedroom. I figure it this way, should I only depend on him to rock my world. What can I do to blow his mind and make him think differently about our sex life. I will also ask myself if he thinks I'm boring and if so is that why he puts no effort in the bedroom, but I would not leave their is too much drugs in this world that support those issues. lol!
To the 5th comment down.. You know you have a good point. I don't know if he is bored with me! I have thought about it and I try to go the extra mile doing the things that I know men like. But I will ask him again. I want him to be happy too. Even though I am not happy, at least one of us can get our rocks off. So if I ever leave him he won't be well I was dissatisfied too! lol but seriously, I don't know. I will make an effort to find out! Thanks for the nugget!
Im not sure if God would have any thing to do with this one but there are a lot of other things that can such as toys and drugs as someone mention already but this is when you have to dig deeper in the relationship as a whole and weigh things out between the pro and cons and as somone else has siad is when you determine what is most impoetant to you in your situation I can relate a bit that when my husband and I are intimate that I usually want more so after he has his nut I no what has to be done for me to get more and for me to get off so you have to try try to you succeed and give it all you got but dont throw away all you have work for see if you can even talk about allowing that you can bring in somone else to help satisfy your needs but once again what are you doing to satisfy his needs if at all?
VIAGRA HAS HELPED A LOT OF MEN WHO CAN'T STAY UP LONG FOR THE DURATION. HOWEVER, IT IS UP TO THE WOMEN TO SATISFY HER MATE COMPLETELY. FOREPLAY IS DYNAMIC WHEN USED APPROPRIATELY. ACTUALLY, PLEASE OBSERVE AND READ ANY MATERIAL ON THE ART OF KUMA SUTRA LOVEMAKING WHICH ADDS SPICE TO YOUR SEXUAL LIFE AND REALLY TAKE NOTICE OF THE SEXUAL POSITIONS TO TRY OUT ON ONE ANOTHER. GO AHEAD LADIES....IF YOU WISH TO TOTALLY BLOW HIS MIND. HE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU.......LOL
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