Thursday, January 27, 2011

What is a total DEAL BREAKER for your marriage?

Another great friend gave me this topic! What is a total deal breaker for your marriage? If your husband cheats on you? If he has a baby with another woman while still married to you? If you find out he's on the down low but still wants to stay married? WHAT? What is a deal breaker? Believe it or not, these examples are not always a deal breaker for marriages. Some women (and men) forgive their spouses and stay married. It all depends on how much a person can handle and how much they are willing to deal with.

I really can't say that cheating would be a total deal breaker for me. It would depend on many things; how did I find out, who did he cheat with, was it a one time thing, does he love her, does he even want to stay with me now that he's caught? I can't say what I would or wouldn't do until something like that happens. That's another reason you can't judge another woman for staying or walking away. Only she knows what is really going on in that household. I will say this, if I found out  my man was on the DOWN LOW, I'm out! No questions or comments about it! #Dealbreaker! There are a few more deal breakers I could list, but this is not all about me. Feel free to share yours.

5 comments:

Lady G said...

The dealbreaker for me was finding out that my ex-hubby was bisexual....finding another bisexual man's number in his wallet....finding his car at the local gay bar....was the proverbially dealbreaker for me.....I feel genuinely sorry for his wife. She married him without knowing the full details about his alternative lifestyle and his children are clueless as well. What a pity?.......It's so sad....

B said...

Why don't you tell her? I would want to know if my husband was BI! And if someone knew, I would want them to tell me chile!!!!!!!!

Mia said...

I'm not married yet but will be soon. But a dealbreaker for me would be cheating...period! Whether with a woman or man. I'm not one to share my man and if I were to find out this is going down, it would totally break my heart. And we can't have that for his sake.

Chrissy said...

This is hard because I can't really say until I'm faced with the issue. I would hope my marriage is strong enough to get through just about anything! Now the DL would be a deal breaker because that would mean my husband has being lying to me about who he is as opposed to making a mistake such as cheating.

evpressley said...

I cant necessarily say that cheating would be a deal breaker for me but I would def have a hard time coming back from that, it would take a long time and may hours of therapy. We may even have to separate for a minute.
But a definate would be finding out that my husband is on the down low! I would never trust or be with him again! No question! That is cheating to a whole other level!