MOLESTATION! How do you protect your children in 2011?

How do you protect your children in this day and age from people, family and friends that might take advantage of our babies? I had a conversation with a few friends and we talked about molestation. It's so unfortunate that so many people have experienced what can be a life changing event. It's also so sad that 90% of children are molested by people they know. Whether it was a father, uncle, cousin, mom's boyfriend or aunt (women do it too), it's heartbreaking.

What is more heartbreaking is that children are the ones that feel guilty. They wonder what they did wrong and hide the secret for many years and sometimes forever. So in this day and age, if you have children - how do you protect yours? I am so fortunate, I was never molested. Although a guy (who will remain nameless did attempt). But I did tell my mother about the attempt 3 years later. I was 10 when I told her. I feel it was a blessing, that nothing happened to me but none-the-less I will never forget the ALMOST! So I can truly understand the hurt of the children that actually experienced it fully.

I have two children and I watch them like hawks. I watch them around adults and older children because I don't know what's going on in the households of other kids. I don't let my son or daughter hang out with kids much other than them. No they can't go in another room, no you can't take my children to the bathroom, NO! I don't let my daughter jump in any man's lap. I do not play that! I don't even like her hugging to many men. I let her hug her daddy, granddaddy, uncle and god fathers! Even with that, I stand close! I watch my son close too. I see the innocence in my children's eyes and I want to keep it that way. I saw the episode on Oprah where all those men were molested and it was so sad. It was the day those little boys lives were taken or changed forever. I do not want that to happen to my children so call me over protective, call me crazy, call me whatever you want but my children are my responsibilty and I do not take it lightly!

A Males GREAT Perspective: For Colored Girls Movie Review

The following REVIEW is written by a faithful male follower of this blog. He wrote me about the movie and I asked him to write what he felt, and I truly enjoyed his perspective of this movie. Enjoy (and comment!)
 
So Tyler Perry did it again. But this time he let the world see a side of men that is normally taboo. It’s an unspoken rule that some secrets we (men) don’t tell anyone. Is it a good rule no but never the less it’s a taught rule. This movie showed how men think. If a woman let you come back after you have left her for some one else. That doesn’t mean that she overlooks what happen. That mean she is fighting against all she knows in order to hold on to the hope that this time it will work. Or just because a woman dresses sexy doesn’t mean she want sex. This movie really put a spotlight on how men treat women bad and think a little kiss & I’m sorry should erase all the pain. Men are taught that if you send roses it will be alright. Or a good night of lovemaking will cover a world of pain. The truth is that society has taught women that if they give the most precious thing that they have to you it will hopefully let you know how much they love you. I don’t want to spoil this movie so I can’t hit all the points I want to. After it has been out for a while then I can say more. I left the movie with a different outlook on a lot of things. I think men need to start raising their sons to be good fathers and or husbands. We have to stop raising them to be hunters. Teach them what abuse is and its effect. We hear a lot about physical abuse, but very little on emotional or verbal abuse. This movie exposes both. And one more point and it’s the most important. It shows how a woman has the ability to see without looking. How they can do every day things, while covering hours of pain with a smile. So maybe we need a new label for these women. Maybe downlow women, the live seemingly happy and satisfied when really down low in their souls they are scared, sad, angry and looking for a way out. This is just my opinion. Watch the movie and give yours. MR. MAN.