Wednesday, May 18, 2011

MOLESTATION! How do you protect your children in 2011?

How do you protect your children in this day and age from people, family and friends that might take advantage of our babies? I had a conversation with a few friends and we talked about molestation. It's so unfortunate that so many people have experienced what can be a life changing event. It's also so sad that 90% of children are molested by people they know. Whether it was a father, uncle, cousin, mom's boyfriend or aunt (women do it too), it's heartbreaking.

What is more heartbreaking is that children are the ones that feel guilty. They wonder what they did wrong and hide the secret for many years and sometimes forever. So in this day and age, if you have children - how do you protect yours? I am so fortunate, I was never molested. Although a guy (who will remain nameless did attempt). But I did tell my mother about the attempt 3 years later. I was 10 when I told her. I feel it was a blessing, that nothing happened to me but none-the-less I will never forget the ALMOST! So I can truly understand the hurt of the children that actually experienced it fully.

I have two children and I watch them like hawks. I watch them around adults and older children because I don't know what's going on in the households of other kids. I don't let my son or daughter hang out with kids much other than them. No they can't go in another room, no you can't take my children to the bathroom, NO! I don't let my daughter jump in any man's lap. I do not play that! I don't even like her hugging to many men. I let her hug her daddy, granddaddy, uncle and god fathers! Even with that, I stand close! I watch my son close too. I see the innocence in my children's eyes and I want to keep it that way. I saw the episode on Oprah where all those men were molested and it was so sad. It was the day those little boys lives were taken or changed forever. I do not want that to happen to my children so call me over protective, call me crazy, call me whatever you want but my children are my responsibilty and I do not take it lightly!

1 comment:

MsDior said...

I understand completely! I have NEVER allowed my children to sleepover anyone's house without me being there, amongst other things because I just don't play that! My family calls it being funny with my kids, other people say that I'm over protective, but I say I'm a Lioness with her cubs and if you don't want me to pounce then don't even go there with me. I just believe that as parents we need to be attentive and interactive with our kids. I talk to mine, I have 2 girls, about the good, the bad, and the ugly....the what is, the what ifs, and the what it ain't gonna be. I am not going to wait til we cross that bridge because I plan on building the bridge for my kids to cross....I trust God above all because I can not say what the future holds, but I can say that as long as I have breath in my body, I will protect my children! I know that I can't be there every second of every day, but I teach my children the importance of speaking up and paying attention to EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY...and last but not least...THAT THEY CAN TELL ME EVERYTHING! They do too, and that gives me the opportunity to have conversations with them. I think that as long as we talk to our kids and teach them about trust and safety, we are well on our way.