MOLESTATION! How do you protect your children in 2011?

How do you protect your children in this day and age from people, family and friends that might take advantage of our babies? I had a conversation with a few friends and we talked about molestation. It's so unfortunate that so many people have experienced what can be a life changing event. It's also so sad that 90% of children are molested by people they know. Whether it was a father, uncle, cousin, mom's boyfriend or aunt (women do it too), it's heartbreaking.

What is more heartbreaking is that children are the ones that feel guilty. They wonder what they did wrong and hide the secret for many years and sometimes forever. So in this day and age, if you have children - how do you protect yours? I am so fortunate, I was never molested. Although a guy (who will remain nameless did attempt). But I did tell my mother about the attempt 3 years later. I was 10 when I told her. I feel it was a blessing, that nothing happened to me but none-the-less I will never forget the ALMOST! So I can truly understand the hurt of the children that actually experienced it fully.

I have two children and I watch them like hawks. I watch them around adults and older children because I don't know what's going on in the households of other kids. I don't let my son or daughter hang out with kids much other than them. No they can't go in another room, no you can't take my children to the bathroom, NO! I don't let my daughter jump in any man's lap. I do not play that! I don't even like her hugging to many men. I let her hug her daddy, granddaddy, uncle and god fathers! Even with that, I stand close! I watch my son close too. I see the innocence in my children's eyes and I want to keep it that way. I saw the episode on Oprah where all those men were molested and it was so sad. It was the day those little boys lives were taken or changed forever. I do not want that to happen to my children so call me over protective, call me crazy, call me whatever you want but my children are my responsibilty and I do not take it lightly!

If God gave you a ONE DAY FREE PASS to do something that no one would ever know about, what would you do?

A good friend of mine asked me this question today. She didn't mention but it's still a great question. My friends and I immediately responded (via email) with what we would do and I thought this would be a great question for the blog.

So, what would you do if you would not get caught and no one would ever know AND GOD gave you a free one day pass? Man, I will not say what I will do because too many people read this blog (even though they don't comment, but I wish they would! hint hint!) and unlike my "friends" - they might judge! Just know that I would do something that I have no business doing and have a great day with a smile on my face all day long!

What about you?

Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver Splitting Up

(Article by TMZ)
Watch this video about the two http://youtu.be/Jh7cpWfAbVw

We're told Maria has been unhappy with Arnold for years ... and first planned to split with him back in 2009 ... but her mother passed away and Maria decided to hold off. Then, we're told, Maria wanted to try to break it off again in January 2011 ... but her father died ... once again putting the split on hold.

Our source tells us Maria is fed up with Arnold's infidelities ... coupled with the fact he's been "impossible" to live with. We're told Maria's kids acknowledge the issues -- and have pushed their mother to call off the marriage.

People who have spoken with Maria tell us ... despite her STRONG public persona, Maria has become a "shell of the woman" she appears to be because she is "terrified" of Arnold ... but in an emotional, not a physical way. However, once Maria finally decided to separate from Arnold -- and moved into a fancy Beverly Hills hotel -- we're told Arnold pulled a 180 ... and he's been "working extremely hard" to win her back. As one source says, "He could not be sweeter now that she's left him."

To make things even more complicated, Arnold and Maria have been spending LOTS of time together lately ... hanging out during Easter, Mother's Day and even their 25th anniversary ... which they celebrated together at an expensive hotel. A source close to the couple tells us ... despite their differences, Arnold and Maria have "serious chemistry between them" ... which is why she has such ambivalence about the break-up.
But ambivalence aside, Maria has been "miserable" in the marriage and has taken a big step to end the relationship.

What makes a couple separate after 25 years? People think that after a certain time that you must have gotten over the hump and forever it will be. I think that just because you stay married doesn't mean you are always happy. There are many miserable people that stay married for many reasons. Then there are the ones that have the courage to walk away no matter how long they have been together or how old they are. I look forward to how this all unfolds. Too bad Oprah is going off the air, because this would have been a great interview!

Jumping the Broom was so good! #tome

Did you go see it? My husband and I along with another couple went on a date night to see this movie. Was it worth it? Yes it was! I absolutely enjoyed this movie and to my surprise, so did my hubby! It was a good wholesome movie. The storyline was so unexpected. You think you know what's going to happen, but you have no idea. I am really trying to write this without giving it away. #itshard

Angela Bassett and Loretta Divine did great as playing mothers and at times, you want to smack them both! Mike Epps played a pivotal role in this movie. Not only was the voice of reason but I have never seen him more serious in a film. He still had funny punchlines which were delivered with great timing too! My favorite actor, well not my favorite actor but he is my Denzel Washington, Pooch Hall of The Game did a good job too. I wonder why my heart started beating faster when his first scene came on!

I will say that the chemistry between the two lead characters (Alonzo & Patton) could definitely be felt. I would feel very nervous if I were their real life partners because when these two kissed, it made you (or me) want to start kissing! It felt like it was real. Like they were really in love! This movie was refreshing and I immediately recommended to all my friends. It's a good girls night out or couples night out! Just go support and enjoy!

The W.I.F.E on The View giving tips!

Hello everyone! Well I made it to ABC, LOL!!!! Well kind of. I was on The View today. This is one of my favorite shows outside of The Game, Oprah & Gossip Girl (yes, I love Chuck Bass and Dan!!). I entered a contest given by The View a few weeks back. You were supposed to send in a 30 second clip Mom's Tip video that helps you cut corners on certain things. The winner would win a trip to New York to share her tip. Well, I didn't win but I received a call last week that said they (The View) really liked my video and wanted to share it on their show! I was so excited as you could imagine. I said, "Of course you can!" I had to sign a release and wha-laaa! They showed my clip today. I hope you enjoy the clip and the tip.

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The Natural Hair Show - Atlanta 2011

The Natural Hair Show stopped by Atlanta this past weekend, April 30th and May 1st. It was such a good show. This was the 3rd year I attended and it has gotten bigger and better every year. It's really amazing at how its grown and how many natural products are out there for the skin and hair. I really believe this show is going to give the famous Bronner Brothers Hair Show some major competition in the years to come.

I went my friend, Precious and Cynthia and we were really overwhelmed. With all that said, we really just came to get one product, Jane Carter. I love her product line but it is EXPENSIVE! She is sold in Target and Whole foods and in those stores what you will spend $20 on, you can get at the shows for $5!!! So I only stock up on Jane at the show! This year her best seller appeared to be her redefining curl cream! It's a new product that all the girls are going crazy over. Its $35 in the store but was $15 at the show and she sold out in the first 3 hours!!!! But she still let you order it and she would ship it to you for the same price. People were getting two and three jars. I have tried samples of this and I must say, I like how it makes my hair look. The curls are defined and just pop.

In my closing, I will advise you to visit the show if it comes to your town. I didn't know so many women are kicking the relaxer "creamy crack!" and going back to their roots. It was so many women in beautiful natural styles, we couldn't stop staring. I did buy some products for my children's hair even though I make my daughters leave-in, I wanted to see if their claims are true. I brought 3 different Taliah Waajid children's (3 for 10) products which are normally $8 each. So far, so good with the product I have tried on my son's hair. My daughter has braids currently, so I will be trying the products on her this weekend when I take her hair down.

Thanks for reading and sharing!
WIFE
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